I recently went through divorce Sept 2022. I was married for 18 yrs together 20. I think the hardest part is starting over. I never thought at 47 I would be divorced and single again

Hi Christina,

I'm a little different, but also the same. I'm 25. I don't think I'm really starting over as much as I am getting started in the first place. I never thought I'd be divorced by 25. I thought I'd have a family by now or at least be ready to start one, and have a career and spend the rest of my life with him. But now I'm bumming jobs in random places. I don't have a home and I certainly don't have a family. I don't see that family happening for a long time, if ever. It's a good thing I got out before kids. I'm not complaining. He was pretty abusive and stole a lot of money from me among other things. And I know I'm lucky I got out young. But I do feel sad. I do feel angry. And I do feel lonely. I'm sorry you're experiencing that too.

Hi Christina,
I got on here because I’m feeling the same. 46 years old, married almost 21 years (will be by the time we are actually divorced) and together 25. I’ve invested my entire life in this man, 4 children, moved with him to 4 states and then the second we decide to divorce (what I thought would be amicably, leaning on each other and supporting each other until we slowly drifted apart), he has thrown me in the trash. Found a new girlfriend immediately (he claims unintentionally, but if your heart isn’t open to it, it wouldn’t have happened, and oh yeah, if you don’t get on a an app to meet new people, that too) and it feels isn’t grieving me at all. I moved out of our home, without a job, while he skips around like a little schoolboy. It feels horrendous and I have no desire to rush into a relationship. I want to Heal. And frankly yeah, dating at 46?! What?! I thought it was time for sweatpants and embracing I’m not cute anymore. Now I feel afraid. Alone. Thank goodness for an abundance of friends and family support but it’s amazing how alone you can feel even amidst people and love. When the person who was supposed to love you THE most doesn’t see you for who you are and thinks another is that person. It’s the most hurtful thing in the world. I want to not care about his new relationship but I can’t seem to let it go. Let him go, even though I fully know I do NOT want to be with him ever again. How do we do this?

I hear you, Kate—especially about embracing the sweatpants and not having to be cute anymore phase of life. The whole idea of dating again and investing in someone again. Ugh. But I still keep feeling like he’s just in a long work trip and will be back, even though I know he won’t. I was ditched for a midlife crisis—the new car and younger women cliche. It’s so demoralizing to invest in someone so much for so long (17 years for me), to have to start again. Not sure I want to, even though I’m lonely.

Husband left me in August. Married 27 years. I don't know how to go forward. I found out today he's been on dates eith another woman. This is crushing to me. It's only been 2 months since he left. He said a few things that have me realize he's in fthe throws of a mid life crisis, but that doesn't change how devastated I am. I quit my job 3 years ago, have no kids and am now utterly alone except for my dogs. How do I do this? How are you doing this? I'm 49 years old...

I completely understand your feelings. My husband said we lost that spark but I later found out that he found a spark with someone else. We have been married 25 years together 29. It is such a blow to everything I thought I knew. All the plans and future things just gone.
I can not explain the pain and sorrow to anyone that has never been in this place.
I pray every day to get a little stronger. I am working on myself and trying to find peace in my soul.
I’m here if you need a friend.

I'm 49. Marries 27 years and husband just left me. Quit my job 3 years ago, no kids and no real support network. Found out today he's seen another woman a couple of times
Who knows if that's true. How are you navigating this? Because I'm falling apart and starting to feel worried about myself and how I'm going to make it. I've never been this weak person before.

I’m sorry
I will be getting a divorce soon after 19 yrs of marriage
I’m 53 and have a medical condition
I’m scared to death I just can’t believe it’s happening

Similar boat here. And live far away from my own support system. Sending solidarity. I’m sorry you’re going through this too

I am in the same situation- 47 and getting divorced after 20 years of marriage. I have no friends and a few family who I can’t really lean on because they are judgmental. I gave up everything for this man. My career, my friends, and my self worth. We separated on Mother’s Day this year and had a separation agreement that we were going to try to work things out in therapy. We were supposed to not have other relationships- but he couldn’t wait even a month. So while we were in counseling he was with someone else. And I’m alone. I’ve gained a ton of weight over the past year due to the stress of our marriage and feel awful and like no one will ever love me again. I don’t know where to start and have no one to talk and it makes it worse being alone with my thoughts and what ifs. Trying to find a place to start my new beginning but it escapes me…

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