Been with my husband 11 years. 13 weeks ago he suddenly out of the blue with no forewarning told me he didn’t love me. Said he had tried to love me but something in him clicked a few months earlier! I had no clue. The week prior we had been discussing paint colours and where to go for a weekend away! He went to stay with his parents and just cut me off. Totally ghosted me apart from at 7 weeks to tell me we need to sell the house then just before 12 weeks to tell me he is starting divorce proceedings! I done everything for him and I was so smug with how happy we were! I just feel so alone and I hate my life!
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Something similar has happened to me. My husband told me he wanted to sell our house that we had just bought, and spend some time apart. Our marriage wasn’t perfect but the day before we were making plans and discussing about home decor, etc. He said he wasn’t happy and blamed me for it. I tried to work things out, suggested therapy, but he wasn’t interested. Even after being separated, we continued to see each other frequently, just as friends, which turned out to be a terrible idea because it gave me hope that we would get back together. I just learned that he filed for divorce without even mention anything to me. At the end of the day I believe that’s for the best, considering that he was not willing to fix things, but it’s still painful. I wish this whole thing is over as soon as possible, so I can move on with my life without him.
This just happened to me yesterday! Out of the blue my husband told me he didn’t love me anymore on Saturday night (Sept 2), he slept in the guest room that night. We had been talking that night about marriage counseling when he said it. The next morning (Sept 3) he told me he wants a separation. He went to work (fire department) and then came home that night, and as I started discussing the marriage counselors I’d found online and how I really want to make this work, he said no, he wants a divorce. The crazy part - is that On Friday Sept 1st we were at a brewery buying tickets to events for our anniversary (which is coming up on Sept 9!!) I fell so overwhelmed - I also felt we would be together forever, we’ve been so happy. We talked about marriage counselors because we had a challenging summer with communication issues and stress. Everyone I have told is shocked as well. 10 years in. I just can’t believe it. I’m so sorry it happened to you too. This feels so overwhelming - we have been taking about landscaping projects and planned two trips last week! I feel so overwhelmed.
Hello
I just read your post. It is such a terrible thing that we are going through this too. I feel connected somehow because this is happening often and it is just as shocking. Mine just left me 26 days ago. We are still working together, with kids and living together. Out of the blue too.
How are you? What day are you? Anything positive to share?
kindly
T
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