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Re: 14 years of marriage, 2 kids and he surprised me with "I don't want to continue".

I am currently in your shoes. 11 years , 8 years of marrriage , five kids , moved to his hometown where all his family is located and he asked for a separation. Our marriage was rocky for a few years and we married young . I put everything on hold to work and then become a stay at home mom to support him and his career and even helped him with course work and now, two years into his career he can’t take it anymore. He says he still loves him but his mental health is suffering. He stayed at the house for months , acted jealous towards other men and friends and still wanted to have sex . He would cook for me and do things for me that he normally wouldn’t do before. But he still wanted separation. He doesn’t want me to file yet and he doesn’t want to split me from our account . Our daughters are struggling ( the two eldest) and they are staying at his mom’s house cause our fights have been a lot. After our eldest pleaded his mom to help us, I told him he needed to leave and he finally did after four months! I now feel lonely and empty. But better. It is so heartbreaking though cause if I could , Inwould continue to stay married

Re: 14 years of marriage, 2 kids and he surprised me with "I don't want to continue".

Hi, I completely understand what you're going through and it's tough. I feel like I've been crying for days. We've been together 11 years and he decided it's over but the problem is we never married so I'm pretty much out with nothing. I have to leave my home and pets. I will never put myself in a situation like this again. My daughter's keep telling me it will pass. I just turned 60 and starting over. Sucks! I hope you will feel better soon and just remember there are others going through this too. You're not alone. Best wishes for you!

Re: 14 years of marriage, 2 kids and he surprised me with "I don't want to continue".

Oh I feel you here! I’m in the same boat; but not in another country. Known each other for 20 years, married almost 15, 2 kids. Different state with no family!
3 weeks ago out of the blue, I’m not happy there is no chance, I don’t want to be with you.
He’s still in the house
He still wants to “do things as a family together”. Like vacation.
But he wants out
Doesn’t want to even try.
I’m hurt, I’m grieving the life I thought I had the future I thought I had.

Just here to say I feel for you! 🫶🏼