My husband and I were about to celebrate our 20th anniversary when the state police raided our house. I was allowed to leave with my two kids, 13 and 15. He lied to me about what happened after I left. I found out the next day he had been sharing child porn online and had an encrypted hard drive that he refused to open. I immediately got a restraining order and emergency custody of my kids. We’re in the process of getting divorced and he feels entitled to unsupervised visits with his kids. He also feels entitled to more than half of our marital assets. He never worked during the marriage but my kids were in daycare, after school care and went to summer camp. He is claiming that he didn’t work because he was a stay at home parent. He has filed multiple motions trying to get unsupervised visits with our children and for money. He still refuses to get a job. Did I ever really know this person? I just want to be divorced but he seems hell bent on making this as painful as possible.
He’s the scum of the earth like many other men including my husband. He doesn’t deserve nor should he be allowed to see your children anymore.
I’m sure you fear he’ll harm them by “normalizing” things & maybe even getting them involved in porn somehow. That’s what I would think. Those thoughts are valid and not unreasonable.
This world is crazy & a lot of humans (who do they even qualify as human) are sick in the head, especially these types of men. It’s tough to do, your children will push/test you, but have strength and stand up for what’s right. You know what to do and that’s difficult I know it is.
There will be rebelliousness in your teens and I’m only warning you because it’s not about you. When children lose a parent sometimes they’ll defend them when they’re angry that they don’t get their way about something.
If he is allowed to see them he’ll make it all about how you made him do these things and brainwash them that he’s the Super Hero somehow. It’s crazy-making and tough to deal. Stand firm.
That’s my best advice because even though nobody is perfect you’re still the best role model.