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Husband wants a divorce, I don’t but agreed. I don’t know what to do

My husband a week ago told me that he wants a divorce and is in the process of getting the paperwork going to do an uncontested divorce. I however believe he is making a huge mistake and do not want a divorce but agreed because I am tired of trying to fight for my marriage. We have been together 15 years and married for 11 and we have 3 children together. My husband stated that he has felt this way for awhile and no longer wanted to lie to himself about what he truly wants, he said he wants someone that is more like him(extrovert) and that I am a great person and have been a great wife but that he just can’t stand someone who doesn’t want to do the same crazy exciting things he does. He said that what made him realize that he couldn’t stay married is when he asked for me to leave with him in a week long motorcycle trip (riding 12-15 hours straight each day) and I was hesitant about going and showed no excitement. He didn’t stop to think about leaving the kids, my new job, how the person taking our kids would feel(my mom) and what events the kids had going on. We haven’t had the best marriage and of course have had our ups and downs but I tried really hard to show him that people can be completely different and still make a marriage work just fine. He has had some trauma from his childhood with his parents that is still ongoing today and a fake sense of how relationships/marriage is supposed to work. I’ve left twice before because I knew what I wanted and how I wanted to be treated and then came back after he begged me to come back and things would be better. He did change but he also still had the same tendencies and I loved him so much that I just put up with them and tried my best to make him happy and be more of a submissive wife but all the issues from the past when we first started dating and up until now he just couldn’t forget or forgive. We make a great team and work great a parents but as partners he wants more than what I already tried to give him. I am in shock and heartbroken that he is moving so fast with the divorce. There isn’t anyone else in the picture and we have decided to stay living together for now because financially we cannot afford to live on our own. I just don’t know how to think or feel or act because I truly think he is making a mistake and he just thinks this is best but he will find out he lost a good woman who put up with all his trauma and bull**** all these years.