After years of dealing with my son’s step mother overstepping Her boundaries I’ve finally explained to my ex husband I am getting more uncomfortable with her actions. For the past 10 years she has inserted herself in areas like school conferences and taking my son to drs appts and being apart of text groups for my son’s sports. I’ve had so many people over the years tell me I should appreciate her being so involved and It could be “so much worse”. I’ve been told her love for my son is rare and I should just be happy. I’ve never made waves for what I thought was for my son but internalizing this has made me a miserable horrible person. I’ve suffered anxiety and depression holding this in. I explained to my ex that after his soccer games I have never been able to be the one who gets to give my son a hug or high-five first because his step mother will run infront of me. Every. Single. Game. She has to go out on the field and be seen first congratulating him. (My son is in high school now. He’s not young.) I expressed that I feel disrespected and I should be allowed to give him a hug and not compete with her. He seemed receptive to this and said his resolve would be that we completely seperate after the games and see who our sons go to
First! So now he wants to make my son choose. This has been going on for years and I’m struggling. My ex started a fight with me last night for no reason trying to regain his control on this matter. Please any advice can be helpful.