My ex-husband is the textbook definition of a narcissist. I didn’t even know what that was until I filed for divorce. He is the most manipulative, horrible person, and I didn’t even know it until I finally decided to get the courage to leave. I just put up with everything that he put me through for the sake of my children and the hope that he would change, but he never did and he never will.

It’s as if I am hearing my story. It is hard to believe that a person could be so heartless with no morals. I am getting a divorce right now. He is abusive but I did not know how very bad of a person that he was. I caught him with his mistress and when I talked to him later about this he said that I was crazy. He said that I was sick and getting sicker. He said that it never happened. I can’t believe it. Decades of marriage. He has no sympathy or remorse. He has no conscience. He parked his car in front of my window and his mistress was sitting in the passenger seat. My bedroom is upstairs with a window looking down on where he was. I sit at my desk by that window and I spend a lot of time there. How cruel can someone be? He came in the house quickly then left real quick. He is pompous, self righteous, demanding and arrogant. It seems to be I am not the one that is sick and getting sicker here. He thinks that he is smarter than everyone. He will lie over the smallest thing or the biggest thing. He likes to take advantage of others. It makes him happy. Of course he didn’t show me these things when we got married. He is a covert narcissist.