I think playing club and team seems like a big commitment especially as kids get older. Feels like you have to make a choice at some point even if it's hard. If hockey is the kids main sport maybe do club hockey and town soccer or lacrosse.
There is nothing to understand. What is the kids goal and how good are they? If it's to play in college then they need to play club and usually club and prep. If not then play high school. More friends, shorter season. Hockey is lousy but depends what the kid wants.
This is 100% spot on - not everyone has the same goals.
The area I think that warrants a larger discussion is around the talented 7th/8th grader playing up? In our area 7th/8th graders have the option to get a waiver to play for the HS. The parents need to evaluate the HS coach - does their philosophy and coaching style help further the development of that young player? I would say that in all but the very rare cases, the answer is no and that player is better off playing full season club.
"Please help me understand"? Why? Who gives a cr-p? If this is what keeps you up at night, please seek psychiatric help immediately.
I mean this statement: "Please help me understand"? Why? Who gives a cr-p? If this is what keeps you up at night, please seek psychiatric help immediately' could probably be used as a macro on this forum.
As freshman why wouldn't you want to play for your high school? At a minimum, unless the team is completely terrible (maybe the OP's is?) a freshman will be challenged by the older kids the same way he is on his club team. But even more likely is that the upperclassmen will be both bigger and faster than his club teammates and he will get to practice with them every day.
Sorry your team is imploding