Ok now I get it. It’s your kid, not a friends. And sorry but your kid is not as good as you think he is or was. Sorry but college coaches don’t jeapodize winning and their careers for lesser players whose parents work the system. College coaches are not everywhere but they go to places where their network tells them to go. They hear from HS and junior coaches, advisors, agents who are everywhere. They say hey you need to go see this kid. Or the kid that’s good enough and goes to the festival or beantown which is scouted by everybody. The truth is if your kid is good enough, there is actually no place to hide.
My kid is 12. Been asked to play in numerous spring/summer hockey tourneys. Did a few, said no to most. Some of the ones he turned down I had to do a doubletake because if it was me I'd force him to do it, but then I realize it is not about me. Plays spring sports, and good at the sports. Loves hockey more than anything, works on his shooting in the driveway, rollerblades, will do summer hockey skills, while playing baseball all summer. All his choices. The running around takes a toll on my wife and I, but we gladly do it because HE WANTS to do it. If I thought for a minute he was soured on anything, bam its over. And FYI I had my moments as a kid playing sports, so I am not living vicariously through him. I just expect him to put the effort in. He does and all is good. SO you all need to chill out and focus on what the kid wants. If he decides to smoke weed and chase the girls, then that is a tell sign that he is not the athlete you pictured him to be. To each their own. :wink:
"...coaches don’t jeopardize winning and their careers for lesser players whose parents work the system."
Coaches wont' do anything to jeopardize winning but they will and do give nods to "lesser players" who (and their parents) work the system. The most obvious one is giving spots to younger brothers who are not as good in-order to land the older brother. So, Player A is a top prospect and his brother, Player B is a very good player but not a legit prospect yet both players end up on a DI squad. Player B may never see the ice but he'll get a letter and (if the coach has anything in the budget) some $$. If you follow NCAA hockey you've seen it happen many times.
Also, working the system does help with visibility and may get a kid somewhere.
True Story: A decent goalie (a rising senior) I know got no DI offers but could have played DIII at several places. He was accepted at his dream hockey school and chose to attend. He e-mailed the coach and asked to have a "walk on" try-out. He tried out and didn't make the team but made himself known to the coach. He e-mailed the coach asking "what can I do to improve" and all that drivel his parents advised him to say. He tried out again next season didn't make it. Again, more e-mails and a stronger relationship with coach. He tried out again and didn't make it but during the course of the season he was pulled up to practice with the team a few times and made a splash in the schools club program (DII national bound). Well this fall the coach e-mailed him and offered him a spot on the team. No $$, No playing time guaranteed (3rd goalie), but he got his dream of being a DI player and all the perks that come with it (Varsity gym privileges, flexible schedule, a letter, free team/school swag ect...).
So one kid (who may never play a minute) used "the system" to land a spot and live his dream.
OP here. Thanks for all the stories about some tall D-man. My kid decided to reach out to some schools, and has actually received 2 responses, both asking where he will be this summer, but its a start.
Good luck. You need to stay in front of them because if you don't do it 20-30 others will.