So your story doesn’t add up. He’s 12 and is in high school and eating lunch with upperclassman?
Sorry that something got lost in translation for you. Rather than insult you, as I'm sure you just read it quickly, I'll simply point out I stated I have four boys. Since I didn't post their ages, I will now, they range from age 20-12 & I was simply lamenting the fact that my families time with hockey is nearing its end. Specifically the post was referring to my 3rd son, who was a 14 year old freshman last season & the decisions he & our family faced.
Hopefully this clears up any misunderstandings for you.
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Great discussion without anyone telling a parent they are wrong for whatever choice they make. For our family it came down to this, only prep\'s interested in my son going into his freshman year were weaker schools and the financial aid offers weren\'t enough to convince us paying thousands extra was going to pay dividends. Our thoughts would probably be different if a strong academic ISL school or two was talking to us. Together, we looked at a few FS options but nothing seemed like a great fit. My son really drove the decision which was, play on a decent 1/2 season team, tryout for the HS team and work his butt off in offseason and see what opens up in a few years (repeat Jr year perhaps). He really enjoyed playing again with friends, fans in the stands, etc. Based upon his experience last season, he fully understands that 90% of his development is now based upon what he does in the off season. If it works out for him, great, if not, there are worse things than playing four years of a varsity sport for your local HS.
We know plenty of families making different choices, they aren\'t right or wrong, just not right for my son and our family. We all are simply doing what we believe is best for our kids development as both a player and person. I just hope parents understand that like youth level, more programs are putting FS teams together which will ultimately water down FS. (Although I imagine those kids playing U16 Futures will still get more development than HS.)
Who do you think you are coming on this board with a well thought out post that makes perfect sense!! You are hereby suspended. Best wishes for your son.
Thanks for the compliment, although I do miss the old dBoard. Hockey has already given more to our family than I could have possibly imagined...life-long friends, a great relationship with my boys, and some amazing memories. Four boys, the youngest is now 12 so it's almost over for our family. I will miss it greatly when it ends but it's been worth every mile of driving, every check written, and every hour in the freezing cold rinks to this point. (even the few trips to the hospital)
As for my son discussed in the post, I have zero expectations that he'll play beyond high school and sincerely doubt he'll develop enough to even move to the next level of HS hockey. That's not why he started to play the game so I can't be disappointed at the final destination. He's a straight A student and loving the HS experience and that's all I could ask for. From the first day of school in the cafeteria where he got called over to eat lunch with the upperclassman to feeling like a BMOC getting dismissed from class to get on the varsity bus during the season, it's been fun for him. He's lucky, the team has some great young men on it and the captains really looked out for him last year. I fully comprehend that development is being sacrificed but I fully support his decision and I think he made the right one for him. Yes public HS hockey can be really bad but for some kids it's about more than just the game. For those kids and families that want more, God bless you, I'm sure you are making the right decision and I hope your player achieves their goals.
I have a son the same age, in the same situation. He's been middle to top third of his "elite" team the whole way through, but he's staying put at a CC school instead of pursuing prep or FS. I can tell you that it is not easy to avoid getting caught up in the prep school vortex or chasing FS opportunities that bill themselves as the ultimate in player development. It really feels like a similar chase as the EHF Elite thing at the youth level, only much higher stakes. But my kid loves his school and does really well there, and he's probably not a college prospect (definitely not a blue chipper), so he's staying put. Good to hear from someone else that is doing the same and feels good about their decision.