These D1 coaches are breaking NCAA rules, or OP is mis-interpreting something else as recruiting conversation. At least OP should stop publicly talking about their child's violation of NCAA rules to protect his/her reputation.
putting aside the recruiting violations --- we all understand that much like MA and MN are 'ice hockey states', PA TX are football, the mid states like MD WV VA are lax havens. no way ANY lax coach is recruiting a new england JV player.
So a fully funded D1 program has around 14 full scholarships for a typical 50 man roster. As an example Holy Cross is not fully funded so roughly a third is available for athletic monies. If you are talking to a D1 school you should understand if they are fully funded or not. D2 is just under 13 and D3 has zero. D2&3 do not have to abide by the rule of the early recruiting. All levels are rich in merit as well if you are a good player and athlete.
A d1 coach I heard at a event basically said that if you are not taking AP and honors classes and have a 1300 SAT minimum there is nothing I can do for you as that is how competitive it is for players these days.
Majority of the recruiting in lacrosse comes from the summer club circuit rather than high school games. As in hockey a large percentage of D1 commits are reclassified at some point be it PG or prep school transfer and repeat.
Good luck to your son however, it is a exciting process per my experience with my sons, MCLA player and a current D1 commit.
The scholarship limit is 12.6 per team. Not much to go around.
If you're a big hockey player who is fit and can run there is a D-1 spot for you somewhere. Schools adding Lax like no tomorrow and 50 man rosters make for plenty of room. Hockey might be the most upside-down college sport there is. Year around play, competitive h.s. and then 2 years of juniors which many kids and parents pay for, fighting the world for a college roster spot, 24 players fewer spots and your kids position, legacy kids all move to the front of the line... Run now while the kid has a chance!
So a Lacrosse player can do 4 years of high school and then go play some form of College Lacrosse if good enough? No wasting 2 years of life before hopefully playing college? Sign my kid up for that.
I dont understand why Hockey has to be so much different even to play D3..toxic.
So you see most kids wanting to do this hockey marathon in order to make a living? I've always thought of it just as a way to get a solid college education while playing the game they all love.