I love everybody here saying don't pay, or that if you are good enough it's free. If you don't pay an advisor for services you are receiving and impermissible benefit and could negatively effect your college eligibility.
NCAA clarified the rules. No longer an issue.
But, even before, our advisor said they would send an invoice for a nominal amount that I could pay or not pay, they didn't care. But they never did.
Oh mom...so many directions to go here. Do the things that got your hubby (or ex) in the first place. That should help the boy. Worked for Forrest Gump!