If the last competitive hockey game you played was when you were the same age as the players you are coaching, you just may be a Daddy Coach.
If your pre-game warm up drills consist of two players in motion and 13 standing around, you could be a Daddy Coach.
If you are unable to demonstrate the skating drills and edge work you are asking of your players, you're probably a Daddy Coach.
If you find yourself so caught up in the action of the hockey game that your over extended shifts regularly result in goals against, you're most likely a Daddy Coach.
If your coaching vocabulary primarily consists of phrases like "skate, skate, skate", and "pass, pass, pass," and "shoot, shoot, shoot", you are a Daddy Coach.
If you look forward to the team lunch at the local Italian joint in between tournament games and then surprised that your team's play was flat and lethargic, you're definitely a Daddy Coach.
If you are doing the same five drills at the end of the season as you did at the beginning of the season, you're a lazy Daddy Coach.
If you have not had a one-on-one mid-season meeting or provided any meaningful feedback to each individual player on what they need to specifically work on to improve, you're a clueless Daddy Coach.
If you rely on the individual skills of a few impact players to win games during the season, and can't understand why your team does not improve year after year, you're an ignorant Daddy Coach.
If you realize after coaching the same players for several years that they are not really developing and the team is not advancing, but you're reluctant to step down because next year is your free ride to the "big tournament", you are the MacDaddy of Daddy Coaches.
and you sir, are the macdaddy of the dad pounding on the glass during the tier one games your son is lucky to be playing in. I guess after watching your son get rejected from 57 different teams in the Commonwealth of Mass. you are a bitter guy. I can see how that happens. Time to put your kid in band and cheer him on as he plays the flute during the school christmas play.
If you are a daddy dumb enough to pay $3000 a year for a daddy Coach then you are probably a foolish parent with a player that can't make a good team
If you are a daddy that watched high school games instead of playing in them than you are probably an unathletic parent
If you are a daddy that tells coworkers every Monday the score of your kids EHF Tier 1 White Division game then you' are probably a pathetic parent
If you are a daddy who thinks other parents actually like you and don't laugh at you the way your wife does when you are naked then you are probably a clueless parent
If you are a daddy that thinks his kid is actually good then you are probably a blind parent
If you are a daddy that doesn't think his wife is tickling the bean thinking of that daddy coach then you are probably a parent in denial
sorry you're another Daddy Coach.
definitely not as good as the op material. It may be easier for you to quit coaching instead of trying to defend it. good luck in the "big tourney" next year.
funny and oh, so true.
Ouch! I bet there are a lot of daddy coaches thinking this was written specifically about them.
must be a town daddy coach! club coaches are far superior to town coaches, even if they are daddy coaches, town coaches have town players and that's where they both belong
I think the original post was intended to differentiate between coaches who know what they are doing from those who don't know what they are doing, often referred to as daddy coaches bc the only reason they are coaching is their kid is on team.
So now I understand what people mean by Daddy Coaches cuz I just thought all the coaches were dads....but now I get the difference between a coach and a "daddy coach'. thx.
05 Ice do not have a Daddy coach. And look where ther are... Hmmmm
They are in Eastie, so what?
Well said. Every club team should have their coaches sign a decree like this acknowledging their expectations. If they don't like it or can't do it, they can coach town.
For the thousands of dollars we pay for club hockey every club should have a vetting process to weed out daddy coaches. A they need an exit plan for daddy coaches especially during the critical squirt through bantam years.
It's funny listening to all the people complaining about daddy coaches, they may concentrate a little more on their child, but that is their right, the hours spent working with all your little Allstars give him that luxury. I'm sure most of the teams parents are happy with the coaching and the way the team is run, but there is always a biitch or 2 in the background stirring up problems because their kids gets sat or isn't on the power play enough, those are the parents that jump from team to team every year looking for that daddy Coach that will see Johnny for the superstar that he is, but in never happens so they biitch, fact
Thanks for your insight Daddy Coach.
you obviously don't understand what a daddy coach is, but you sure do sound like one.
The real question is what decent, non-daddy coach would want to put up with the petulant, whining, know-it-all, over-expectant parents that inundate this board, (and a good portion of select hockey in general)?
Original post is an excellent description of what you should be looking out for when you choose a team for young junior. Take away the "daddy coach" speak and all you coaches with kids on the team (many of you are very good) will surely agree.
What you are saying is find a real coach and not a "daddy coach" as the definition of a daddy coach is someone who doesn't know what they are doing, as the original post already said.
If you do not have a kid on the team and you are the coach that is just creepy.
Creepy?? No your an idiot ! Plenty of coaches who don't have kids on the team!! Called love of the game !!
Your comment about 'coaching a team if you don't have a kid on it is creepy' is a different conversation and indicates that you may not understand the definition of a 'daddy coach'. A daddy coach is not defined as a coach whose kid is on the team (just about every coach has a kid on the team). A daddy coach is a coach who doesn't know what he's doing, does not develop his players and is only coaching BECAUSE his kid is on the team. As oppose to coaches, who also have their kid on the team but do know what they are doing, and do know how to develop his players. This is the difference between a REAL COACH and a Daddy Coach and why to original post is so **** funny.
So then the 05 Bdog's coach is a daddy coach. Now I get it.
I didn't realize Webster's had added the term Daddy Coach to the dictionary. Thanks for the clarification! And here I always thought Daddy Coach was a term used by disgruntled select hockey parents who's kids can't hang at the level they're playing at and need to shift blame to the coach, or by delusional town hockey parents who are looking for excuses to justify moving the little scrapers to select hockey. On the High School board, I believe the derogatory term used by disgruntled parents when coaches don't see the potential in their little Allstars is "Townie Coach," so stow that one away for a few years and break it out when things don't go the way you had hoped.
So you sound like a Daddy Coach who looks forward to the team lunch at the Italian joint. Sorry, you suck as a coach.
The way people suck up to coaches is pathetic. And the coaches that are d bags will no doubt have kids that grow up to be d bags
The parents from your team have zero respect for you. You're a joke. You think yelling at the kids is coaching. You take the silence from parents as a sign of respect when in reality they despise your coaching. No player is developing because you don't know how to develop a young hockey player. Your experience playing on the high school jv team only gets you so far. You really should do your players a favor, step down from coaching and give them a chance to develop this season. Parents and your players would respect you for doing so.
I'll be crushing tall boy Gansetts the rest of today. See you all at practice tonight.
Exactly, its mind boggling when the coaches kid is weaker(which is fine) but is played more than anyone on the team
Well said. Also, if you didn't skate with the coach and do your homework on him well before tryouts then shame on you. If you actually had to go to the tryout to know you made the team then it's likely your kid is a third liner anyway and that is why your disgruntled.
anyone realize the correlation between most high level college and pro players when they talk about their youth hockey experience ???? because almost all of them say that their dad was their coach !
Granted there are probably some inexperienced or bad dad coaches. I will take well prepared mid level daddy coaches who actually care about the team as opposed to a pro coach with no vested interest and no practice plan or vision for the season any day.
I am sure I share this sentiment with several parents and her this often.
In fact I know an assistant with zero hockey background that was a great assistant due to his connection with the kids and years of coaching experience at a high level with another sport partnered with a "dad" coach that played college that has some knowledge of the game, was one of the best experiences as a parent i have had.
conversely, one of the worst, was with a pro coach who didn't give a s**t about the kids or team.
"..anyone realize the correlation between most high level college and pro players when they talk about their youth hockey experience ???? because almost all of them say that their dad was their coach ! "
Yeah. What they don't mention (as in the other thread about hockey legacy kids) is their 'Daddy coach' was an ex-NHL'er and being part of the hockey family is how they ended-up a "high level college and pro player."
Depends on experience and how the coach interacts with the players. We have an experienced head coach, played college hockey focuses on skills and skating. We have an assistant coach who played Juniors and focuses on team moral, mental toughness. Both are Daddy coaches but you wouldn't know it. I guess as long as the kids play hard for them what else can I ask for.
Well said from the previous poster about commitment to the team. One of my sons plays for an ex NHLer. He could care less about the team. Brings a lot of hockey knowledge, and "OK" ability to translate it to the kids but goes through the motions. Doesn't care about "team". His previous coach only played through high school but knows the game better than anybody I've ever met and especially how to translate it to the kids. Is a disciplinarian and really cares about the team. Stressed fair, hard play and teamwork and created an environment that the kids feel obligated to perform for. He got a little hot under the collar sometimes but I'd much rather have that than the guy who played at a high-level who doesn't seem to care. There absolutely some real losers out there as daddy coaches but there are also some really good ones.
I feel really obligated to say the next sentence.
Sorry your kid get cut, sorry your kid is a third liner, sorry the coaches kid is better than your kid.
You know there was a town board for people like you, correct?
Exactly what instrument did you play in your high school band?
Most daddy coaches are in it for their kids. Very few actually can coach the game and care about every player on the team. Good daddy coaches are in a no-win situation. If they actually coach the kids parents only see them as a parent vs a coach. Unfortunately favoritism to the coaches kid, who is usually one of the worst players on the team, runs rampant through the Boston hockey scene.
The daddy coaches always blame it on the parents
The daddy coaches always blame it on the parents
Love this debate.I am a coach with a kid on the team and my wife is a school teacher.We are the most blamed people on earth.
Let's get the violin out. Question is, are you a real coach or not? Is your kid the worst player on the team or the best? Do you treat him the same way as others? Would he legitimately make the team if you weren't coaching? Do you select his friends or kids he likes, or parents kids who you coach or drink with over new kids? Do you really develop hockey players or open a door? Have you progressed players to a higher level from the one you're currently coaching at?
Sounds like you're a typical daddy Coach.
i am curious to know if half of the whiners on this board actually do anything besides complain anonymously or do you actually try and do something about it? If you know your kid is playing for a daddy coach why do you stay? There are about 50 organizations in the greater Boston area. surly there are enough spots on tier one white rosters for your benders.
I'll say it again, since somebody else just brought it up: don't complain about the coach that you chose. Do a better job of finding a coach that you like next year. Do your due diligence, even if it means having some difficult, man-to-man (not email) conversations. Do what's right for your kid, don't just settle then come on here knocking guys that are giving up a significant amount of their time to coach.
Can anyone give an organization that has a coach that:
Is not a dad of a kid on the team?
Plans out the year with goals and objectives?
Builds practice plans centered around improving the team?
Helps develop bottom third?
Balances wins/loss with opportunities for the kids to build confidence?
Love to hear the organization that has that coach.