Exactly, its mind boggling when the coaches kid is weaker(which is fine) but is played more than anyone on the team
Well said. Also, if you didn't skate with the coach and do your homework on him well before tryouts then shame on you. If you actually had to go to the tryout to know you made the team then it's likely your kid is a third liner anyway and that is why your disgruntled.
anyone realize the correlation between most high level college and pro players when they talk about their youth hockey experience ???? because almost all of them say that their dad was their coach !
Granted there are probably some inexperienced or bad dad coaches. I will take well prepared mid level daddy coaches who actually care about the team as opposed to a pro coach with no vested interest and no practice plan or vision for the season any day.
I am sure I share this sentiment with several parents and her this often.
In fact I know an assistant with zero hockey background that was a great assistant due to his connection with the kids and years of coaching experience at a high level with another sport partnered with a "dad" coach that played college that has some knowledge of the game, was one of the best experiences as a parent i have had.
conversely, one of the worst, was with a pro coach who didn't give a s**t about the kids or team.
"..anyone realize the correlation between most high level college and pro players when they talk about their youth hockey experience ???? because almost all of them say that their dad was their coach ! "
Yeah. What they don't mention (as in the other thread about hockey legacy kids) is their 'Daddy coach' was an ex-NHL'er and being part of the hockey family is how they ended-up a "high level college and pro player."
Depends on experience and how the coach interacts with the players. We have an experienced head coach, played college hockey focuses on skills and skating. We have an assistant coach who played Juniors and focuses on team moral, mental toughness. Both are Daddy coaches but you wouldn't know it. I guess as long as the kids play hard for them what else can I ask for.
Well said from the previous poster about commitment to the team. One of my sons plays for an ex NHLer. He could care less about the team. Brings a lot of hockey knowledge, and "OK" ability to translate it to the kids but goes through the motions. Doesn't care about "team". His previous coach only played through high school but knows the game better than anybody I've ever met and especially how to translate it to the kids. Is a disciplinarian and really cares about the team. Stressed fair, hard play and teamwork and created an environment that the kids feel obligated to perform for. He got a little hot under the collar sometimes but I'd much rather have that than the guy who played at a high-level who doesn't seem to care. There absolutely some real losers out there as daddy coaches but there are also some really good ones.
I feel really obligated to say the next sentence.
Sorry your kid get cut, sorry your kid is a third liner, sorry the coaches kid is better than your kid.
You know there was a town board for people like you, correct?
Exactly what instrument did you play in your high school band?
Most daddy coaches are in it for their kids. Very few actually can coach the game and care about every player on the team. Good daddy coaches are in a no-win situation. If they actually coach the kids parents only see them as a parent vs a coach. Unfortunately favoritism to the coaches kid, who is usually one of the worst players on the team, runs rampant through the Boston hockey scene.
The daddy coaches always blame it on the parents
The daddy coaches always blame it on the parents
Love this debate.I am a coach with a kid on the team and my wife is a school teacher.We are the most blamed people on earth.
Let's get the violin out. Question is, are you a real coach or not? Is your kid the worst player on the team or the best? Do you treat him the same way as others? Would he legitimately make the team if you weren't coaching? Do you select his friends or kids he likes, or parents kids who you coach or drink with over new kids? Do you really develop hockey players or open a door? Have you progressed players to a higher level from the one you're currently coaching at?
Sounds like you're a typical daddy Coach.
i am curious to know if half of the whiners on this board actually do anything besides complain anonymously or do you actually try and do something about it? If you know your kid is playing for a daddy coach why do you stay? There are about 50 organizations in the greater Boston area. surly there are enough spots on tier one white rosters for your benders.
I'll say it again, since somebody else just brought it up: don't complain about the coach that you chose. Do a better job of finding a coach that you like next year. Do your due diligence, even if it means having some difficult, man-to-man (not email) conversations. Do what's right for your kid, don't just settle then come on here knocking guys that are giving up a significant amount of their time to coach.
Can anyone give an organization that has a coach that:
Is not a dad of a kid on the team?
Plans out the year with goals and objectives?
Builds practice plans centered around improving the team?
Helps develop bottom third?
Balances wins/loss with opportunities for the kids to build confidence?
Love to hear the organization that has that coach.