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You're not likely going to be able to discern that going in. Every coach talks a good game before the contracts are signed.
Maybe more important than either are the assistant coaches. If they are Daddy Coaches, they are there to protect their kid (and, in many cases, to pretend their hockey knowledge from 25 years ago and their current beer league team is still relevant), because they aren't going to get much in terms of a break on tuition. Meaning, they are going to advocate for their kid, and it's the rare head coach in either of the situations you're describing that is going to tell that dad he is distributing the minutes to the benefit of his kid, with enough emphasis to get him to stop.
There are good Daddy coaches out there. There are good non-Daddy coaches, too. Just not many of either.
In short, NE coaching is a pretty much a *********
Even the best daddy coaches I have been around, put their kid first, second and third. Not complaining at all! Had some very good coaches and people but it holds true every time. Every single time!!
Young coaches are a crap shoot. The better ones are well educated and going into coaching/ teaching and looking for experience. They will make their mistakes along the way but if decent people, likely will be ok.
We must have the same coach. My son's coach has a kid on the team and we have never had an issue. The only thing rewarded on my kid's team is hard work.
This coach is a keeper. I bet the whole team loves the coach. A diamond in the rough, lucky you! Can you let us know what team/organization this coach is involved with? Be nice to let the other D board folks know there are some good daddy coaches out there.
I've watched you people eviscerate program after program in the short time I've been on this board.
There is no way in hell in naming the program my kid plays on so that I can watch you cut it down because you have superiority issues. Just know that there are great coaches out there who reward good behavior and hard work and not birthright.
Fair enough. I think I know the program the coach is involved with. Good program and good team. I bet you are on the outside looking in and kissing this coach's ass in the hopes of getting your bender on his team. Good luck!
Dream on. My kid is on the team. Happy with the coaching is all. In my experience, the ones who complain about daddy coaches and their kid not getting enough ice time, have the laziest slackers on the team. Skates and a stick don't make your kid a good teammate.
sounds like your kid is about to get cut. Sorry. By the way, a 600 dollar pair of skates for a 10 year old makes all the difference.
Which program we don't need the coaches name. I truly believe there are good/solid daddy coaches at some level. It all depends on the program and coach. Good Luck!
If your team is winning games than parents dont care if a players Dad, Uncle, Cousin, Grandfather behind the bench, but if a team is loosing, then it becomes the scapegoat. Common sense people.
It's been said before, but there's no way you're going to avoid having a parent coach. Or very few ways. In my experience, it helps a lot if the coach's kid is one of the best players on the team, and hurts a lot if the coach's kid is in the bottom third. So my advice is do your homework and proceed with caution.
My son also plays on a team with a father coach who rolls the lines and does not favor his son for ice time, even though in certain situations he probably should. They are out there.
My son plays for a top level 05 ehf team and it is terrible! Daddy coach is not a good thing for our team! Got to do your homework not only about coach but where the kid is relative to the others. Disaster!
could be worst, imagine being a Jr. Rangers player for that org? total free fall in all age levels!
The fact of the matter is that pretty much everyone will have to deal with their kid playing for a daddy coach until their kid is in high school. Unless you are the daddy coach. Even in high school it could happen. So buckle up, it might be a bumpy ride!
If you are fortunate enough to have a non-daddy coach at the youth level, with no agenda, and knows how to translate the game to your kid then you have found the golden unicorn.
Learn to deal with the daddy coaches. If you feel like the guy is favoring his own, which he will, but his son doesn't merit it, then too bad, get on the bench yourself, or shut your mouth or leave the program. Just know the situation may play itself out all over again in the "new" situation. It could be that your kid isn't as good as you think or wish him to be.
But do your diligence and ask around and see if anyone has had any experience with their own kid playing for the daddy coach you are about to let coach Junior for the next 8 months. If you find that in your "research" the experience was worth while for them, and the favoring wasn't so obvious, then have your kid play for that guy.