To the coach’s post earlier, he’s wrong. There are two or three blue chippers in New England. The people reading this, well none of them are your kids. Sorry. Very weak birth year for actual players compared to 03, 01 and 00.
You will not know for sure that your kid is being recruited until 1) you are encouraged to apply, 2) you go for interview and the coach spends a good amount of time with you and 3) the coach is calling you directly usually once every other week after the interview. Tell your kid to keep working hard. And you should actively but quietly reach out to coaches of schools that your kid is interested in. An important question during interview should be how do you see Johnny making a contribution. BE open and honest with all the coaches you are interacting with. If they are worth a **** they will appreciate it and if you kid truly is talented they understand that many schools will be recruiting him/her.
The only thing being recruited is your wallet. Seriously