Our coaches kid is the most unruly kid and is always starting trouble. The coach will punish other kids with game suspension etc. but never his kid. The kid is always in the box and first on to start trouble in the locker. The wife is no bargain either(always yelling and making things uncomfortable in the stands). We want the team to stay together but want them to leave. How should we go about this? Tell him or the owner.

Neither. Take the people you like and leave en masse to a new program. If they're good players, they will welcome a package deal.

But don't assume it will be any different there.

Don't go to the higher ups. You risk them not believing you. That can lead to your kid getting cut (at worst), or a very uncomfortable rink environment for you and your kid (at best). If you succeed in getting the coach tossed, and the program does change coaches, the new coach will bring his own players, and the parents of kids who get cut will blame you.

Like the previous poster said, just leave and take the best players with you. The program will know why you left.

Agreed, just leave in mass but check out the teams you are considering going to first to ensure it's not a repeat situation.

We have the opposite problem. All our coach does is discipline his kid and its in an uncomfortable kind of way. It disrupts practice more than his kid does.

Sounds like the canadien 02 coach from lowest level kings team.

Our coach's kid slams his stick on the ice, smacks it against the goal posts, whacks it against the boards and harpoons the garbage can on the bench. Somehow Daddy doesn't notice it. I guess he has bad vision :(.

It's a disease some coaches have, it's called idontseemykidbeinganobnoxiousprickitis

Sounds like the 06 breakers

Sounds like another lost soul. Trying to re-live his life through his son. Just let the kid play and have fun with his friends.
Don't try to make him Johnny superstar by keeping him on the ice all game.
If he is good enough it will all happen on its own. No need to force it.

Any kid doing this should be asked to leave practice or game. It’s an embarrassment to the program. If you are a coach and you allow your child or any player to do this without being addressed you have missed the boat on USA Hockey., sportsmanship, parenting, integrity and so on.

Have you ever coached / had to deal with parents?

I had a kid behaving like that at the Squirt level. And we were winning. He was angry because he was a defenseman (like Grandpa was in the NHL) and wanted to score but the other team kept taking the puck away on his end-to-end rushes.

I asked him, "would you rather be winning 3 - 1 and be scoreless or losing 4 - 2 with 2 goals." He said losing would be better, as long as he scored.

I told him to consider taking up golf.

I got a call from the GM that night. Dad wasn't happy with me.

So much for trying to teach kids about being good teammates.

So the dad went to the man instead of asking you what's up and then wants you to take him and his kid serious? What a peckerhead.

Dad wasn't even at the game. Kid got home, whined to Dad, and Dad gets on the phone.

Mom apologized for her kid's behavior, which she saw from the stands. She said she was going to talk to him about whether he wanted to continue to play the sport if it made him so miserable and wasn't fun.

And yes, dad is a total peckerhead. I know him socially. Turd in a punchbowl type.

What the #%^* are you guys talking about? If your kid has an attitude on the ice or in the locker room he should be disciplined. Doesn't matter if you are the coach. Discipline your kid when he acts like an *ss or he will end up like you and everyone will hate him.

You must be new to youth sports, Pollyanna.

Wait, What?

You get garbage cans on the bench?