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Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

One more thing.

Stop watching your kids practice at pee wee. Let them figure it out.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

I agree with not watching practice too hard but all parents watch hard the first few weeks. Then they find a drinking buddy and go out to the lot and have cold ones

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Anon
OP
Anon
Pit your ego aside for a minute.

Put him in town hockey and let him have fun.

You will thank me in a few years.
My ego?

He’s having fun. Possibly too much.

Your reading comprehension is terrible.
Yes. Put your ego aside.

I am not basing my response on reading comprehension. I’m basing it on 25 years of coaching and having an older boy who has been through it.

Kids who don’t take it serious at peewee don’t care as much and that is fine that they don’t want to take it serious.

Your answer is right in front of you.

You even posted that you feel he is not taking it as serious you feel he should.

That is where e disconnect is.

He is playing. Not you. It is his game. Not yours.

Put “your” ego aside and he isn’t taking it serious because he doesn’t care about it.

Drive the 25 minutes to town and let him have fun as I posted.
Let me get this straight. So what you are saying is my own sense of self esteem is in the way due to me questioning when players should be taking it seriously?

And are you suggesting that I should no involvement beside transportation and support at all like I have so far in his 7 years of hockey?

Last question, why would town hockey be more fun compared to his club team? He is very good friends a lot of kids on his club team and the only kid he knows on the closest town team has told us that they are leaving for another club team because it’s very disorganized.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

OP
Anon
OP
Anon
Pit your ego aside for a minute.

Put him in town hockey and let him have fun.

You will thank me in a few years.
My ego?

He’s having fun. Possibly too much.

Your reading comprehension is terrible.
Yes. Put your ego aside.

I am not basing my response on reading comprehension. I’m basing it on 25 years of coaching and having an older boy who has been through it.

Kids who don’t take it serious at peewee don’t care as much and that is fine that they don’t want to take it serious.

Your answer is right in front of you.

You even posted that you feel he is not taking it as serious you feel he should.

That is where e disconnect is.

He is playing. Not you. It is his game. Not yours.

Put “your” ego aside and he isn’t taking it serious because he doesn’t care about it.

Drive the 25 minutes to town and let him have fun as I posted.
Let me get this straight. So what you are saying is my own sense of self esteem is in the way due to me questioning when players should be taking it seriously?

And are you suggesting that I should no involvement beside transportation and support at all like I have so far in his 7 years of hockey?

Last question, why would town hockey be more fun compared to his club team? He is very good friends a lot of kids on his club team and the only kid he knows on the closest town team has told us that they are leaving for another club team because it’s very disorganized.
That’s almost exactly what I am saying.

You think he should be taking it more serious. You think that because he is playing club hockey and you are invested as a parent to have him be the best he can be. I get that.

Yes, it’s there game and that dreams. Be a cab and a bank for them. Be a supportive parent but stay away from anything more.

Town team won’t be more fun. But you won’t care as much if he doesn’t take it seriously. Because you won’t feel like he has to take it serious and hold on to that little chance that he will figure it out and make it.

Let’s get back to playing for fun town hockey that doesn’t really matter. Most clubs don’t matter either. But the parents and owners are heavily invested so there is pressure.

Kids should only go to club after dominating lower levels and literally not being challenged and only if they are asking for more. Not you wanting more.

So. Yes. My response was exactly as you interpreted it.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Anon
OP
Anon
OP
Anon
Pit your ego aside for a minute.

Put him in town hockey and let him have fun.

You will thank me in a few years.
My ego?

He’s having fun. Possibly too much.

Your reading comprehension is terrible.
Yes. Put your ego aside.

I am not basing my response on reading comprehension. I’m basing it on 25 years of coaching and having an older boy who has been through it.

Kids who don’t take it serious at peewee don’t care as much and that is fine that they don’t want to take it serious.

Your answer is right in front of you.

You even posted that you feel he is not taking it as serious you feel he should.

That is where e disconnect is.

He is playing. Not you. It is his game. Not yours.

Put “your” ego aside and he isn’t taking it serious because he doesn’t care about it.

Drive the 25 minutes to town and let him have fun as I posted.
Let me get this straight. So what you are saying is my own sense of self esteem is in the way due to me questioning when players should be taking it seriously?

And are you suggesting that I should no involvement beside transportation and support at all like I have so far in his 7 years of hockey?

Last question, why would town hockey be more fun compared to his club team? He is very good friends a lot of kids on his club team and the only kid he knows on the closest town team has told us that they are leaving for another club team because it’s very disorganized.
That’s almost exactly what I am saying.

You think he should be taking it more serious. You think that because he is playing club hockey and you are invested as a parent to have him be the best he can be. I get that.

Yes, it’s there game and that dreams. Be a cab and a bank for them. Be a supportive parent but stay away from anything more.

Town team won’t be more fun. But you won’t care as much if he doesn’t take it seriously. Because you won’t feel like he has to take it serious and hold on to that little chance that he will figure it out and make it.

Let’s get back to playing for fun town hockey that doesn’t really matter. Most clubs don’t matter either. But the parents and owners are heavily invested so there is pressure.

Kids should only go to club after dominating lower levels and literally not being challenged and only if they are asking for more. Not you wanting more.

So. Yes. My response was exactly as you interpreted it.
Agree with most of what your saying but "Kids should only go to club after dominating lower levels and literally not being challenged and only if they are asking for more. Not you wanting more" is far from accurate. My kid started with a town team and was always really good. Moved him to EHF platinum last season and he was completely lost. Not even close. He got cut at end of season. I truly believe if he was with that team from day one he would have been much better. Now hes on another club team in a different league.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

What I don’t understand is why some people respond to honest questions with rude answers. It isn’t about ego, when a parent is concerned about his child’s attitude. He would have the same concern, if this was happening in school. Should the kid just drop out of school because he isn’t paying attention in class? If anything, OP is pretty humble in voicing his concern. It’s ok to be a parent, you aren’t coaching your kid, you are concerned about his attitude. I would suggest asking questions, instead of telling him your opinion: “hey what’s going on in practice , I noticed you and your buddies are fooling around, is practice boring, do you still like the sport etc.?” I would only insert a gentle life lesson about work ethic after I verified that 1, he loves the sport 2, he wants to play and 3, the drills are not engaging. If he doesn’t want to be there, a conversation will save everyone a lot of time and money.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Have the conversation asap. It doesn't need to be an argument. Tell him what you have noticed. If you see him acting like a clown in line and then doing a drill like garbage than you tell him. If he's the type of kid that isn't happy unless a chance to score on a drill occurs then tell him he needs to grow up. Assuming he 11 he is old enough to hear that he needs to take things seriously. Specially if he is on a good club team that he enjoys playing on.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Start talking to him now. He is old enough to get it. Parenting and coaching your kid are two different things. To me, this falls under parenting. Would you be alright if he half-assed his school work too? Talk to him about what he wants with hockey and if his current efforts are aligned with that.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Anon
Have the conversation asap. It doesn't need to be an argument. Tell him what you have noticed. If you see him acting like a clown in line and then doing a drill like garbage than you tell him. If he's the type of kid that isn't happy unless a chance to score on a drill occurs then tell him he needs to grow up. Assuming he 11 he is old enough to hear that he needs to take things seriously. Specially if he is on a good club team that he enjoys playing on.
Absolutely stop watching practice ASAP. Get your information from talking to your kid and/or the coach, and enjoy watching his games. Notice if he's developing or not there. But get out of the rink. You've got to be kidding me.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Not to come across as a hardo but I expect my kids to pay attention and try his hardest at whatever he does. Team sports should naturally teach that....work hard as a team, win as a team. This is a teaching moment for you cant start early enough.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Had the conversation. Turns out that head coach had already had a quick talk with him and a few others after their last practice. I wasn’t as nice as the coach but got point across. No arguing. He said at one point that hated not knowing what to do during drills. I expect to see different kid tonight.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

OP
Had the conversation. Turns out that head coach had already had a quick talk with him and a few others after their last practice. I wasn’t as nice as the coach but got point across. No arguing. He said at one point that hated not knowing what to do during drills. I expect to see different kid tonight.
Do your kid a favor - stop watching practices.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

OP, Good for you for having the conversation. Great step.

you can still watch your Pee Wee's practice. Just not all of it, and make it a social thing with other parents. Don't bear down on your kid.

Most important: Don't expect a new kid tonight!!! Too much. These things take time. Its a change of habit for the coach and the kid. Don't tell you kid he is good at hockey, or he could be good at hockey if he pays more attention. Tell you kid you liked his effort on one drill or another, but his effort could improve at this drill.

If your kid thinks, "Hey, they all think I am good, why does he have to work hard, he is already good in dad's eyes"
If you kid thinks, "My dad really liked my effort today" What do you think he will bring to the next practice? The sense that he is already good, or I want to make Dad proud and bring a really good effort again today" (That goes for everything in life) What kind of hockey player will he become if you give him that feedback instead of I think your a good hockey player Junior.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Last night he and a few others looked way more focused. Obviously don’t know how long it will last but the practice looked much better as well.