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Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

What I don’t understand is why some people respond to honest questions with rude answers. It isn’t about ego, when a parent is concerned about his child’s attitude. He would have the same concern, if this was happening in school. Should the kid just drop out of school because he isn’t paying attention in class? If anything, OP is pretty humble in voicing his concern. It’s ok to be a parent, you aren’t coaching your kid, you are concerned about his attitude. I would suggest asking questions, instead of telling him your opinion: “hey what’s going on in practice , I noticed you and your buddies are fooling around, is practice boring, do you still like the sport etc.?” I would only insert a gentle life lesson about work ethic after I verified that 1, he loves the sport 2, he wants to play and 3, the drills are not engaging. If he doesn’t want to be there, a conversation will save everyone a lot of time and money.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Have the conversation asap. It doesn't need to be an argument. Tell him what you have noticed. If you see him acting like a clown in line and then doing a drill like garbage than you tell him. If he's the type of kid that isn't happy unless a chance to score on a drill occurs then tell him he needs to grow up. Assuming he 11 he is old enough to hear that he needs to take things seriously. Specially if he is on a good club team that he enjoys playing on.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Start talking to him now. He is old enough to get it. Parenting and coaching your kid are two different things. To me, this falls under parenting. Would you be alright if he half-assed his school work too? Talk to him about what he wants with hockey and if his current efforts are aligned with that.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Anon
Have the conversation asap. It doesn't need to be an argument. Tell him what you have noticed. If you see him acting like a clown in line and then doing a drill like garbage than you tell him. If he's the type of kid that isn't happy unless a chance to score on a drill occurs then tell him he needs to grow up. Assuming he 11 he is old enough to hear that he needs to take things seriously. Specially if he is on a good club team that he enjoys playing on.
Absolutely stop watching practice ASAP. Get your information from talking to your kid and/or the coach, and enjoy watching his games. Notice if he's developing or not there. But get out of the rink. You've got to be kidding me.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Not to come across as a hardo but I expect my kids to pay attention and try his hardest at whatever he does. Team sports should naturally teach that....work hard as a team, win as a team. This is a teaching moment for you cant start early enough.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Had the conversation. Turns out that head coach had already had a quick talk with him and a few others after their last practice. I wasn’t as nice as the coach but got point across. No arguing. He said at one point that hated not knowing what to do during drills. I expect to see different kid tonight.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

OP
Had the conversation. Turns out that head coach had already had a quick talk with him and a few others after their last practice. I wasn’t as nice as the coach but got point across. No arguing. He said at one point that hated not knowing what to do during drills. I expect to see different kid tonight.
Do your kid a favor - stop watching practices.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

OP, Good for you for having the conversation. Great step.

you can still watch your Pee Wee's practice. Just not all of it, and make it a social thing with other parents. Don't bear down on your kid.

Most important: Don't expect a new kid tonight!!! Too much. These things take time. Its a change of habit for the coach and the kid. Don't tell you kid he is good at hockey, or he could be good at hockey if he pays more attention. Tell you kid you liked his effort on one drill or another, but his effort could improve at this drill.

If your kid thinks, "Hey, they all think I am good, why does he have to work hard, he is already good in dad's eyes"
If you kid thinks, "My dad really liked my effort today" What do you think he will bring to the next practice? The sense that he is already good, or I want to make Dad proud and bring a really good effort again today" (That goes for everything in life) What kind of hockey player will he become if you give him that feedback instead of I think your a good hockey player Junior.

Re: When to correct my kids attitude?

Last night he and a few others looked way more focused. Obviously don’t know how long it will last but the practice looked much better as well.