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kind of a random question, but here's the deal. my 8th grader has a class trip coming up early next year (Costa Rica, assuming borders open up by then) and he's been looking forward to this all middle school. only problem is, his coach is very strict and does not allow for conflicts or missed practices/games for any reason. my kid is decent but not irreplaceable. back in 6th grade he had to miss a few practices due to lacrosse conflicts and we were given a warning that we weren't "committed enough". anyhow, other than that, my kid loves the organization and wants to continue with it for the foreseeable ***ure (he's applying to non-hockey private high schools so club is his only option).
so what do we do? talk to the coach and remind him that a kid is only a kid one time and that he doesn't want to miss the chance to go on the class trip with his friends, but risk getting benched for a while? or fake an injury and go on the trip and pray that he never finds out about it?
There is much more to life than hockey. The coach is a piece of crap. Your kid shouldn’t be put in a place of choosing between a trip he has looked forward to for a long time and choosing to stay home out of fear of his coach. My son’s prior coach, with a top 10, had no problem with a kid missing hockey for anything educational related. Also said that if hockey parti****tion was being cut off due to poor grades, he totally supported it.
You just posted on a public web site. He already knows based upon this pretty specific info. If this is serious, enjoy Costa Rica and tell the coach to screw. Any coach who would make someone miss a once in a lifetime trip for a couple of games shouldn't be coaching.
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School should ALWAYS be the #1 priority and a class trip, IMHO is school related so give him his sunscreen, some extra $$ for the ladies and tell him to have fun.
Tell your coach to kick rocks and get over himself. Let the kid enjoy what will no doubt be an eye opening experience, one that will help forge him into adulthood. Then come back and tryout at any of the 97957473938 hockey programs in Mass.
potentially a once in a lifetime trip/experience v another set of practices and games. you have your answer.
He or she will never look back in 20 years and say he missed out on a frigging 8th grade hockey game. 100% Costa Rica and it shouldn't be in doubt one bit.
OP here. thanks for the advice. he's definitely going on the class trip, so that's not in question. the only question is whether to come clean with the coach. there is no need to say anything yet because the borders may not even open by then (it's closed right now). but if the trip does happen, it's probably going to coincide with the playoffs, which I suspect will set him off. my kid wants to stay with the organization through high school, so he doesn't want to get kicked off the team or go into a permanent dog house. the other option is to fake an injury. the coach does not know about the class trip and there are no other kids from his school with this organization.
Set a good example for your kid and be honest. Teach your kid how to handle situations like this in the right way.
100% be honest with the coach. If he has a problem with it then too bad. What are you going to lie, and then have your son come back with a tan in the middle of march from being in the warm sun of Costa Rica for a week? Not to mention there is no doubt your son will want to tell his friends about the trip and ultimately the coach will find out.
This is an absolute no brainer to just tell the coach the kid is going on a school trip. I also would tell him sooner than later that your son is planning to go on this trip. This way if the coach acts like a jerk the rest of the season you have plenty of time to find another team and aren't scrambling after playoffs/before tryouts to go somewhere else.
OP last time here. good call. I'll wait for a few weeks though because 1) the trip still may not happen and 2) in case if the coach is reading this board, I want his memory to fade a little before getting hit with a "so hey my kid needs to go on a class trip to Costa Rica"