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Saw a good quote this morning.
“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”
Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.
On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.
This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.
At most youth levels a good coach is someone that just rolls the lines, talks softly and pats kids on the back. You may not make them much better, but at least you will do no harm which is the biggest concern for a young kid.
I had a wake up moment like this as well. Happened over a year ago and I still remember it like yesterday.
Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.
In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.
Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.
Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.
Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.
It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.
Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.
Hahaha Its club hockey. CLub hockey isn't special anymore. Its basically good town hockey from when I grew up. Relax
I know a guy or a dozen who have no problem bad mouthing other players to the coach. All have short horns. Also know moms who are the same way. Short horns as well.
“Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.”
"Well son, show me someone who likes to lose and I will show you a loser."
If you like it now, you will forever.
Yea this conversation never happened. Nice try pretending to be more virtuous than everyone else.
Excellent post and a good lesson learned. I pla*** juniors and D1 hockey and had a career ending injury my senior year. Best hockey memories I had from youth- my friend throwing up in the pool at our first away squirt tournament because he ate an entire pizza before. All the shenanigan's with my teammates through the years, sleepovers, on ice fight with my best friend from another club at bantam. My parents never pushed me and I learned how to skate and play on our back yard pond. When you get in college and beyond its a job. Let the kids have fun and play with their friends. Running around for all these camps and privates and driving hours to play with the best team is all for the parent not the kid. If the kid has the ability and skill and is willing to put in the time then he might have a shot when he gets older to play in college or juniors. Until that time stop taking it so serious and let the kid be a kid.
If playing 2 years of juniors, 4 years of D1 and being drafted means I sucked than so be it. **** happens and in the long run it worked out for the best. Riding around on the ECHL bus and getting a sniff of an AHL team was about all I was going to get anyway.
Why do you keep saying “We”. What position you play on the team.. are you a coach on the team or a player for them? Pretty arrogant of you to suggest cutting players on your kids team