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Dumb Parent
Jan 27, 2022 - 9:26AM
I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

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Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 9:33AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Dumb Parent
Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

I wish more people would see that. We pla*** on a team two years ago with a great coach, the players under him were not the most skilled but they pla*** the game right My son learned more from this coach at a mediocre level than he has in the past two years with his "elite" coach. Do we win more games now, yes. Do we play better competition, yes. Has my son learned anything other than the coach only likes the kids that score, no.

The "elite" level is all about the kids who are faster and can get breakaways. There is no system, no passing, no team play.

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anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 10:19AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

At most youth levels a good coach is someone that just rolls the lines, talks softly and pats kids on the back. You may not make them much better, but at least you will do no harm which is the biggest concern for a young kid.




a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 10:26AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Dumb Parent
Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

This is a great post. Also wish there was more of this thinking in youth sports

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 11:33AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

I had a wake up moment like this as well. Happened over a year ago and I still remember it like yesterday.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 10:47AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.

In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.

Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.

Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.

Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.

It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.

Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.

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Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 11:26AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Anon
Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.

In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.

Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.

Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.

Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.

It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.

Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.
Thanks super team Dad who thinks his kid is bound for the NHL based on his 11 year old skill.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 12:35PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Anon
Anon
Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.

In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.

Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.

Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.

Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.

It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.

Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.
Thanks super team Dad who thinks his kid is bound for the NHL based on his 11 year old skill.
If my kid gets cut then he deserves it. Just like it sounds like wimpy pants dad realizes that little Johnny is not helping his sons team. Crappy players need to be cut. It will only help them build “the character” you talk about. Difference is that I and my kid know and embrace that knowledge. Don’t skate hard, might get yourself cut. Don’t pair up points, might get cut. Don’t backcheck, will get cut. Nobody’s going to the nhl, but If the coach really cared about your kid then he would cut those that don’t deserve to be on the team. They are not helping the precious coaching and development so often discussed this forum.

This is a money game, not a friendly game. Put up or shut up! Stop being embarrassed for knowing and acknowledging that hockey is a meritocracy and those turds who got cut probably didn’t put the time and commitment in to succeed. Either that or they just stink and the sooner they figure it out, the better for them and their kid.

Back to town hockey Karen.



o
OP
Jan 27, 2022 - 3:29PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Anon
Anon
Anon
Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.

In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.

Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.

Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.

Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.

It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.

Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.
Thanks super team Dad who thinks his kid is bound for the NHL based on his 11 year old skill.
If my kid gets cut then he deserves it. Just like it sounds like wimpy pants dad realizes that little Johnny is not helping his sons team. Crappy players need to be cut. It will only help them build “the character” you talk about. Difference is that I and my kid know and embrace that knowledge. Don’t skate hard, might get yourself cut. Don’t pair up points, might get cut. Don’t backcheck, will get cut. Nobody’s going to the nhl, but If the coach really cared about your kid then he would cut those that don’t deserve to be on the team. They are not helping the precious coaching and development so often discussed this forum.

This is a money game, not a friendly game. Put up or shut up! Stop being embarrassed for knowing and acknowledging that hockey is a meritocracy and those turds who got cut probably didn’t put the time and commitment in to succeed. Either that or they just stink and the sooner they figure it out, the better for them and their kid.

Back to town hockey Karen.



You missed the point. Not questioning who is getting cut. Questioning myself for thinking the way I thought. Point is I was wrong and too many parents are just as wrong.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 9:38PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Anon
Anon
Anon
Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.

In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.

Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.

Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.

Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.

It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.

Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.
Thanks super team Dad who thinks his kid is bound for the NHL based on his 11 year old skill.
If my kid gets cut then he deserves it. Just like it sounds like wimpy pants dad realizes that little Johnny is not helping his sons team. Crappy players need to be cut. It will only help them build “the character” you talk about. Difference is that I and my kid know and embrace that knowledge. Don’t skate hard, might get yourself cut. Don’t pair up points, might get cut. Don’t backcheck, will get cut. Nobody’s going to the nhl, but If the coach really cared about your kid then he would cut those that don’t deserve to be on the team. They are not helping the precious coaching and development so often discussed this forum.

This is a money game, not a friendly game. Put up or shut up! Stop being embarrassed for knowing and acknowledging that hockey is a meritocracy and those turds who got cut probably didn’t put the time and commitment in to succeed. Either that or they just stink and the sooner they figure it out, the better for them and their kid.

Back to town hockey Karen.



You are a ******* that doesn’t know how to read.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 3:26PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Anon
Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.

In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.

Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.

Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.

Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.

It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.

Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.
You do realize club hockey is the norm now right? Don’t act special because your kid is playing it.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 5:25PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Hahaha Its club hockey. CLub hockey isn't special anymore. Its basically good town hockey from when I grew up. Relax

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 5:23PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Anon
Wussification at its finest. Stop listening to your kids. They don’t know s-h it. They are twelve and there’s a reason we don’t allow them to drive or vote.

In it to win it baby. Cut those bottom dwellers. Let your kid learn that if you don’t do your job, you get fired. Stop relying on your kids hockey coach to build character, thats your job.

Plus elite hockey is all about puck movement after 1st yr squirts. Not sure what moron is making that case. Obviously a sloth w a slow kid who can’t make the top team and never watches a game.

Toughen up rainbow parents. Teach your kid that losing sucks. Winning is awesome. And it’s probably not a good idea to allow poor performers weigh the rest of the hard workers down.

Slow and lazy is no way go to go through life. And certainly no way to build a hockey team.

It’s club hockey, not friendship camp. We all know the deal. Players play and pretenders get cut. That’s why we play club, otherwise you should join the town b team. And I hope you wimpy parents never change change the accountability that competitive hockey provides.

Sorry your kids slow ass loser friends got cut. But they deserved it.
Read the post. Comprehend it. He never said anyone got cut.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 11:18AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Dumb Parent
Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

If the kids are developing, having fun, coachable, want to be there, (as well as a good group of parents that are easy to deal with) a good coach will see the value in this. This is hard for some to believe but for some coaches it is not all about winning and going out to find the next best kid to replace someone that’s working hard and getting better. If he runs a good practice and is developing the kids, sounds like you are in a good spot with a good coach and the families that jump around to the next best thing typically realize it wasn’t what was best for their kid and the grass wasn’t greener.

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Non Toxic
Jan 27, 2022 - 11:32AM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

I know a guy or a dozen who have no problem bad mouthing other players to the coach. All have short horns. Also know moms who are the same way. Short horns as well.

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anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 12:30PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

“Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.”

"Well son, show me someone who likes to lose and I will show you a loser."


If you like it now, you will forever.

o
OP
Jan 27, 2022 - 3:32PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

anon
“Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.”

"Well son, show me someone who likes to lose and I will show you a loser."


If you like it now, you will forever.
Smart people on this board. Another one who missed the point.

a
anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 12:45PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Yea this conversation never happened. Nice try pretending to be more virtuous than everyone else.

o
OP
Jan 27, 2022 - 3:30PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

anon
Yea this conversation never happened. Nice try pretending to be more virtuous than everyone else.
Know the facts before you type.

a
anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 12:58PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Dumb Parent
Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

Maybe this is a true story, or maybe you're a coach on a mediocre team that keeps losing his top players. If they're moving on to what they think are greener pastures, just wish them the best. You can't make everyone happy.... even the top elite teams blow up when there are enough divas in the locker room.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 1:42PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

anon
Dumb Parent
Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

Maybe this is a true story, or maybe you're a coach on a mediocre team that keeps losing his top players. If they're moving on to what they think are greener pastures, just wish them the best. You can't make everyone happy.... even the top elite teams blow up when there are enough divas in the locker room.
If his top players are moving on, that’s a good thing. Records don’t matter, it’s where are your players ending up. Did they improve over the season to get pulled up? That’s the sign of a good coach.

o
OP
Jan 27, 2022 - 3:35PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

anon
Dumb Parent
Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

Maybe this is a true story, or maybe you're a coach on a mediocre team that keeps losing his top players. If they're moving on to what they think are greener pastures, just wish them the best. You can't make everyone happy.... even the top elite teams blow up when there are enough divas in the locker room.
Not a coach and my kids team hasn’t lost a top player since they’ve been together. Nobody is leaving. Again, missed the point.

a
Anon
Jan 27, 2022 - 9:32PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

OP
anon
Dumb Parent
Saw a good quote this morning.

“The best coach isn’t always the one with the best players, with the best ranking or with the most wins. The best coaches are those that do more with less, change the lives of their athletes for the better and teach the importance of character.”

Last week I told the coach that I thought we needed to cut a few players. The bottom ones. Luckily my kid is one of the better ones and works hard. I pla*** at high level so I felt like my opinion mattered more than it should have. Looking back at my conversation with the coach, I wish I could change everything I said and tell him that he is doing an amazing job. Wish I left at that. He has a team with glaring holes but somehow finds a way to improve all the kids. He develops them the right way. He has them winning more than losing in a very good league. The coach has made these kids love the sport, he runs great practices, he has given these kids all of his free time.

On the way home after the conversation I asked my son if he thought the team should get some upgrades on players. His response made me second guess my thoughts on club hockey. He said “No. No way. Why would we cut anyone?” I gave him a generic response of something like “Well we want to win more.” He looked at me and said “Dad, hockey isn’t all about winning.” He also thought it was strange when I told him the kids I thought should go. He asked me if was friends with their parents. This ride home I will never forget.

This is coming from a kid who isn’t quite 12 years old yet. Thankfully he has a more mature mind than me. Thankfully his coach has done a better job than me making him understand what’s important.

Maybe this is a true story, or maybe you\'re a coach on a mediocre team that keeps losing his top players. If they\'re moving on to what they think are greener pastures, just wish them the best. You can\'t make everyone happy.... even the top elite teams blow up when there are enough divas in the locker room.
Not a coach and my kids team hasn’t lost a top player since they’ve been together. Nobody is leaving. Again, missed the point.
Holy ****. The only dumb asses here are the ones that missed this guys point entirely. He doesn’t even say people are leaving. Read it again real slowwwwwww maybe just maybe you’ll understand he makes a good point.

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anon
Jan 28, 2022 - 2:00PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Excellent post and a good lesson learned. I pla*** juniors and D1 hockey and had a career ending injury my senior year. Best hockey memories I had from youth- my friend throwing up in the pool at our first away squirt tournament because he ate an entire pizza before. All the shenanigan's with my teammates through the years, sleepovers, on ice fight with my best friend from another club at bantam. My parents never pushed me and I learned how to skate and play on our back yard pond. When you get in college and beyond its a job. Let the kids have fun and play with their friends. Running around for all these camps and privates and driving hours to play with the best team is all for the parent not the kid. If the kid has the ability and skill and is willing to put in the time then he might have a shot when he gets older to play in college or juniors. Until that time stop taking it so serious and let the kid be a kid.

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Anon
Jan 28, 2022 - 2:49PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

anon
Excellent post and a good lesson learned. I pla*** juniors and D1 hockey and had a career ending injury my senior year. Best hockey memories I had from youth- my friend throwing up in the pool at our first away squirt tournament because he ate an entire pizza before. All the shenanigan's with my teammates through the years, sleepovers, on ice fight with my best friend from another club at bantam. My parents never pushed me and I learned how to skate and play on our back yard pond. When you get in college and beyond its a job. Let the kids have fun and play with their friends. Running around for all these camps and privates and driving hours to play with the best team is all for the parent not the kid. If the kid has the ability and skill and is willing to put in the time then he might have a shot when he gets older to play in college or juniors. Until that time stop taking it so serious and let the kid be a kid.
We all know career ending means you sucked

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anon
Jan 28, 2022 - 3:06PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

If playing 2 years of juniors, 4 years of D1 and being drafted means I sucked than so be it. **** happens and in the long run it worked out for the best. Riding around on the ECHL bus and getting a sniff of an AHL team was about all I was going to get anyway.

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We we we
Jan 28, 2022 - 10:09PM
Re: I feel bad about what I said to the coach.

Why do you keep saying “We”. What position you play on the team.. are you a coach on the team or a player for them? Pretty arrogant of you to suggest cutting players on your kids team

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