Most development happens in skills/practices at this age. Good coaches will keep their kids challenged and developing regardless of who they are playing.
I played 4 years of college hockey and two years of bad minor league hockey. Had seasons in my youth that were full of losses. Had others that were full of wins. Development came in all seasons lead by coaches that understood winning and losing is just part of sports. If you are stressed over a wins or losses, I would suggest getting him on a team that wins. If you are smart parent, you wouldn't worry.
Let me guess. Your kid plays on an e9 team. Maybe BA. All the parents think they are the best then they play teams outside their league and get smoked. I have read this story before.
I'm not the OP but BA does often end up playing EHF teams and beyond. I think most parents are well aware that while BA is good other teams in the E9 aren't as good. It would make sense for E9 to play EHF teams but it doesn't sound like that will happen except for in random tournaments
My son played on a 9 year old team that lost almost every game. Trust me you don't want that ever. Couple really good coaches were ganged up on by parents and eventually let go one after the other thinking someone new could somehow make a town team into AAA. Felt bad for them. Parents complaining everywhere, parents saying they knew how to change things around, parents saying they were leaving next game. It was just awful.
Yeah I've been on the other side too where my kids team had to play up a year because they were killing the teams of the same birth year. Parents also complained about there being no competition. I'd prefer being on a team that was winning but the leagues need to do a better job sometimes of making sure there is competition and that other teams aren't getting destroyed
There is nothing wrong with losing games.
It’s only bad when losing becomes the acceptable norm. Once losing doesn’t sting anymore the competitive nature dwindles.
Kids become accustomed to losing playing on teams that can’t win.
I have been through parents telling me that their kid is getting 50 shots a game so he is going to get better. Kid ended up being so comfortable giving up goals and losing he didn’t care anymore.
Or. Parents telling me that there kid is playing against the best kids and that is how they will get better. Kid ended up not knowing what to do with the puck after years of not touching it in game situations.
There's nothing wrong with losing games but if you're losing every game and are on one of the worst teams in the league and don't see things getting better, it could be time to find a different team.
At the younger ages (any age actually) losing lots of games can be demoralizing and the kids could lose interest. Why would an 8 or 9 year old want to keep losing? It can be hard enough to keep kids interest in something at all at these ages. Hockey takes up a lot of time and money. You want it to be worth it for everyone.