“Positive attitude starts at home” is 100% accurate. Telling your goalie that it wasn’t his fault and blaming GA’s on his team is like feeding him poison. Plants the seed of bad attitude. I told my son from day one of playing goalie that every goal was on him, support his Defense after every GA because they need to be picked up, and most importantly when he was a peewee to speak to the team postgame after a tough game with a positive tone and take ownership of the loss or GA’s. The end result was a very good high school goalie who captained his team for 2 years. He’s still playing now in college.

Do not worry if the team is bad!! The more mistakes defense makes in front of him, the more shots he gets. At his age, this is a gift. Consider this training for next season. We have been there , done that, and it worked out to our goalie’s advantage. no matter how bad the team, he will be seen by other teams, who may approach him next year. He should talk to his goalie coach- anyone who ever trained him: stop it, Masscrease etc… they would put this experience in perspective. Coach yelling - might as well learn to deal with it now, I don’t like it either, but it will just get tougher the older he gets.

Or just tell your 2012 to stop crying. Little old to be doing that.

My 05 goalie was on a couple of terrible teams through the years. I don't recommend highlighting "seeing a lot of shots" as a silver lining. As my kid said to me when I tried it, "yeah, but it still sucks to lose."

Problem # 1 - knocking his teammates
Problem # 2 - thinking your kid is the only bright spot
Problem # 3 - crying after a game in October
Problem # 4 - A 2012 Crying after a loss
Problem # 5 - you thinking the coach shouldn’t be telling your kid to work harder

Spot on. You came to the dboard for advice. Take this guys

You may have entered your son in the wrong sport. If you can't handle being part of a team, which means winning and losing together, then you may want to take your superstar to an individual sport. At this level I can assure you his parents are the only one's thinking he is the "only bright spot". Do the other families playing in 2012 a favor and don't change teams. They don't need you in the stands.

Tell your son to suck it up and stop being a baby as losing is a BIG part of playing net and it's the position he chose to play. I am sure in all these losses he has also let in a few soft goals too, after all, he is a kid. To quit now and go somewhere else is screwing over his team (let alone the other 15+ families) and its only going to hurt him later in life when he is working a normal job like 99.9999% of the kids he is playing against or wherever you end up. Think for a minute, you are solving the immediate problem over nonsense like youth hockey win's to tarnish your son's re****tion as he gets older. Kids are not as innocent as you think - they will also remember your goalie left them high and dry and will take it out on him either on the ice next season or years down the line when they are drinking beers in the woods and remember he walked. Nothing worse than having the label as a quitter following you around- so get him some boxing gloves when he goes to the other club. It's why most parents believe in the fact that once you commit, you commit. If you don't like the team, there are plenty of options when it comes to youth tryouts. In the end, nobody cares or remembers how many games he lost or goals he let in playing youth hockey either.

If your kid didn’t see 70 shots more than your total GA, he didn’t have a great game. (That’s shots on goal, would have scored if he didn’t save. I know how goalie parents like to count every foul ball their kids reaches for)

Your teams bright spot has a job to do also. So tell him to clean up his facial leaking and get to work.