Re: Why do so many parents think their kid is good when they're really not?
I’ve learned that the differences can sometimes be subtle so maybe that’s why some parents don’t know any better. The speed, skating ability, compete level, hockey sense. You have to get your child around truly elite level players at clinics or other tryouts (summer teams, even if you don’t intend to follow through) to be able to gauge where your player is compared to others. Could my kid hang at elite level? Absolutely. Would they be an impact player? No. Better to keep them at a level where they can develop confidence and skills without worrying about trying to keep up with the truly elite players. They need to dominate (and I mean dominate) the level they are at. Those who have this figured out are the kids that end up surpassing some of those supposed elite players later on because they were able to actually develop skills vs. just hanging on to an elite team.
Re: Why do so many parents think their kid is good when they're really not?
there is a real easy solution to this. Just don't follow the kid's social media account (or the parents for that matter). but you live for being upset about someone else life...
Re: Why do so many parents think their kid is good when they're really not?
anon
there is a real easy solution to this. Just don't follow the kid's social media account (or the parents for that matter). but you live for being upset about someone else life...
It's actually just cringeworthy. I'm not upset about their life.
Re: Why do so many parents think their kid is good when they're really not?
anon
Let's discuss. So many parents seem to think hockey will be a part of their 8, 9 or 10 year old's life for many years into the future. And many of these kids are nothing to write home about or it's simply too early to tell. Why does this happen with hockey so much? Never in my life have I heard of parents having arguments with coaches, org owners over the ability of their kid. You didn't play my kid long enough out there, my kid should be doing this, my kid should have made the top team, having kids try out for teams they have no chance of making. Traveling ridiculous distances for tournaments and spending ridiculous amounts on skills. Creating an IG account for an 8 year old to give an illusion that they have this perfect hockey kid life. If it's not on social media it didn't happen! I don't really see or hear about this in other sports. What is it with hockey parents?
Re: Why do so many parents think their kid is good when they're really not?
Maybe it’s not about thinking their kid is good and more about growth. The more a kid plays the better they will be in most cases. Just because your kid is elite today, doesn't mean he'll be elite tomorrow. Many of the kids that peak faster at a younger age eventually plateau when they get older.
The flipside to that question, why can’t a parent whose kid was good yesterday, not let go when they're no longer good tomorrow. They're the ones who are arguing with coaches and directors.
Re: Why do so many parents think their kid is good when they're really not?
Anon
Maybe it’s not about thinking their kid is good and more about growth. The more a kid plays the better they will be in most cases. Just because your kid is elite today, doesn't mean he'll be elite tomorrow. Many of the kids that peak faster at a younger age eventually plateau when they get older.
The flipside to that question, why can’t a parent whose kid was good yesterday, not let go when they're no longer good tomorrow. They're the ones who are arguing with coaches and directors.
I can see where it would be difficult to have a kid who was once really good end up being not good. It's like if you have a kid who got all A's and B's in school and suddenly in 9th grade they become a C student. It would be frustrating.