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Lisa

I wish that he would just try with out me doing anything but yet I feel as if I am done!

Greeting friends, I am lisa and my first post was: I feel as if I am stuck and un happy and in a trap.I am having a rough day. When dh is not at home or around I talk to myself and try to make sence of why is he not fighting for me and trying to do what ever it takes...

Views: 115 Replies: 4

Last Post: Nov 12, 2010 7:29pm
by Lisa

Susie

I need some advice

I have been with my husband for about 12 years and married for 1 1/2. I love him, but I'm not in love with him. I don't find a physical attraction for him anymore and things aren't so well in the bedroom. I am so scared of hurting him though. I'm not miserable, but I...

Views: 123 Replies: 5

Last Post: Nov 12, 2010 9:09am
by Sherrylmd

Mary Stearns Montgomery

Six Steps to Take When You Feel Divorce is Imminent

Hello everyone, As I've been reading this forum, I realize that many of you have questions about what to do before a divorce. I just wrote an article about it, so I thought I'd share... There’s no question about it — divorce is one of the most difficu...

Views: 130 Replies: 0

Last Post: Nov 12, 2010 7:59am
by Mary Stearns Mon...

ashyah

having a hard time after divorce

Hello, It's been a year and half after divorce. In March it will be five years including separation since I left. He has not said one single word about it all even in the beginning. I have never received a call from him. Why is it that these emotions come and go as...

Views: 155 Replies: 9

Last Post: Nov 12, 2010 7:43am
by JLVR

Lisa

What do some of you do to stay strong and stand tall ?

Most of us here have made a post. Mine was feeling stuck and trapped. I look at my kids and that give me strengh I pray to god and that makes me feel stronger and I remind myself about all the things he has done to me to make me a victim and at the same time I want t...

Views: 132 Replies: 8

Last Post: Nov 12, 2010 6:54am
by MovinOn

Lisa H.

Sole Legal Custody?

Does anyone know how I can go about getting sole legal custody of my boys? My ex moved to another state and I didn't know if that would make a difference. He refuses to sign for passports. I know that you can go before a judge and have a judge sign off on temp. passp...

Views: 83 Replies: 1

Last Post: Nov 12, 2010 6:48am
by Mary Stearns Mon...

Sandy

I'm moving and don't know if I have to let my ex know

I was given permission to move wherever I choose in the divorce. My ex has no visitation with any of our 4 children due to prior abuse. There is also an order of protection that covers myself and oldest child. Do I have to notify him?

Views: 95 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 11, 2010 12:29pm
by MovinOn

Beginner

Very newly separated

Is it wrong to feel relief, loneliness and melancholy at the same time? I've made a conscious decision and have voiced this to now ex that I could no longer go on. Once a cheater always a cheater and I gave him four chances to screw me over and over. I moved 5 h...

Views: 120 Replies: 1

Last Post: Nov 11, 2010 11:56am
by MovinOn

MovinOn

how to move on

This is a bit similar to the last thread I started, but I am feeling so stuck at this point of healing. There are a few opportunities I have of dating. It's been long enough since he left/we divorced, that is the time frame they say to wait before dating (suggested t...

Views: 104 Replies: 2

Last Post: Nov 11, 2010 10:35am
by MovinOn

Deirdre

Say WHAT?

Oh, yay. The ex is getting married. NEXT WEEK. Did he have the guts to tell me? Nope. My kids told me. Adding insult to injury, he had our oldest son PROOFREAD THE WEDDING VOWS!! How could he ever think that was OK? I am sure he did it because he knew my son...

Views: 172 Replies: 10

Last Post: Nov 11, 2010 8:54am
by Deirdre

Anxiety

First Court Appearence

If my ex does not attend the first hearing, does anyone know what will happen? Will the court proceed without him or schedule a new date? It is an uncontested divorce, and he has already agreed to everything that I have asked for in his answer that he filed with the...

Views: 118 Replies: 1

Last Post: Nov 11, 2010 4:12am
by Lisa H.

Sad

What are my rights?????

What are my rights? I mean just in case I am getting the divorce papers? Do he still have to support me after divorce? I mean right now I am not getting any money anhow.. and he is telling me that I will not get anything after the divorce anyhow... Also what about th...

Views: 136 Replies: 4

Last Post: Nov 11, 2010 4:05am
by Lisa H.

sussan

consequences of missing parenting class

please can some one tell me what are the consequences of missing parenting class for custody in maryland. but i have reschedule to attend one before the final divorce date.

Views: 104 Replies: 4

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 7:21pm
by Susan

Hope

I need some help and guidance please

Hello. I am 21 years old, my son is 4. I work full time and I attend college full time online. I live in MD. I have been married for 4 years. This website has given me a lot of information, and I have filed for divorce and everything else on my own. Neither of us hav...

Views: 110 Replies: 2

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 5:34pm
by Hope

Sad

Just a song that I wanted to share with you ladys...

I am listening to it right now.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bQ_44erSURw

Views: 104 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 2:05pm
by Deirdre

Jeanie

Mediation and temporary Custody Rights?

Does anyone know hoe it works? I was told by a lawyer that if we go to mediation the judge will still honor my temporary full custody order. I have an ex who is not violent but who has an abusive father that he reconnected with prior to leaving me and I am so frighte...

Views: 95 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 12:40pm
by Lisa H.

Lilli

very cool new website for divorced women

There is a new website designed to give hope, help and more importantly, POWER to women of divorce. Check out the contest page and write your story. It's very therapeutic and you could even win the prize! We want to make changes so women no longer have to suffer....

Views: 115 Replies: 0

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 11:02am
by Lilli

Lisa Felan

Finding my Feelings

I have always been pretty good in the past figuring out how I am feeling but right now I have having an issue. It has almost been a week since my husband asked me for a divorce. We are still living together but he goes out every night so he doesn't have to be home w...

Views: 81 Replies: 1

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 10:28am
by MovinOn

Trish

Never changes

I'm not perfect... I try my best to be a great mom! To be a good student and a good person. I don't do a lot of things right as hard as I may try. That's just me I guess...I'll never be the person who seems to have it all together. I always realize my mistakes though...

Views: 154 Replies: 7

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 10:10am
by Lisa

Lisa Felan

Hurting to Hurting

I don't know what to do. Thursday evening my husband asked me for a divorce and is not willing to work on it with me. We have been together for almost 16 years and this coming Monday will be only our two year anniversary. We have no kids it is just the two of us....

Views: 137 Replies: 4

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 6:48am
by Lisa Felan

Lisa

I feel as if I am stuck and un happy and in a trap.

I am a mother of 2 age 10 and 13 yrs old. Married for 20 years. Most of the marriage was filled with pain. He used to call me stupid, ugly low life and would tell me that if I did not give him sex that he would get it from someone else. The past 10 years he has incre...

Views: 134 Replies: 5

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 6:45am
by Lisa H.

sarah

father petitioning for custody, child almost 18

hi, i was hoping i could get some answers. me and my husband have been divorced since our child was 1.5 years old. i, the mother, got the most custody. she goes to stay with her father every 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekend of the month that starts on a friday. our child i...

Views: 103 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 10, 2010 3:47am
by Becky

sad

God please help me!!

He just came home..got his drinks (beer) with him. All he said to me was did my mom or somebody called? I said no. He said well I will call them..now he is drinking and talking to his mom... I bet they are talking about me what they can do next... I am like always b...

Views: 204 Replies: 15

Last Post: Nov 9, 2010 5:14pm
by Sad

Safd

He came to me for a talk.. lastnight!

Hello Lady's! Thanks for your words,prayers& help!! It really did help me alot! THANK YOU!! My husband came after he have had talked to his Mom and Sis. And we was talking for hours.. I cryed etc. But we have talked.. After our talk it was around 11:45pm. I tryed t...

Views: 142 Replies: 6

Last Post: Nov 9, 2010 12:36pm
by Sad

Jean

Who of you went to marital counseling before divorce? How long? Who initiated?

I am an a crossroads. I filed over a year ago, only to have my husband beg me to go to counseling. I reluctantly agreed. My heart hasn't been in it. At which point do you stop counseling? Have any of you been in my situation? They way I feel is if my heart isn'...

Views: 172 Replies: 9

Last Post: Nov 9, 2010 10:07am
by Marina

Emotionally Removed

Just want out

OK here is probably more of the same but anyway. Spouse is a habitual drinker. The straw and camel's back thing just happened Sunday. I came home after visiting my grandchildren and smelled burning coming from the house and saw one of his guns on the patio table....

Views: 153 Replies: 12

Last Post: Nov 9, 2010 9:46am
by MovinOn

SuspendedInTime

Help!

I feel frozen as to moving forward with my life. I know that a lot of this is grieving. I am not taking any risks right now as to dating, and it's hard for me to reach out to new friends I have made. I'm sure it's trauma, but how does one go on? Is it possible to...

Views: 120 Replies: 12

Last Post: Nov 9, 2010 8:24am
by SuspendedInTime

Susan

Divorce

Want to talk about divorce

Views: 144 Replies: 4

Last Post: Nov 8, 2010 6:59pm
by ashyah

pained

i want to dissapear

I try to work on packing but I keep crying, so I get out into public, the tears stop for as long as I am there but I have to come back, to this place where there was love, but abusive love as well. I try to focus on what he did to hurt me, but it all hurts. I don't...

Views: 127 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 8, 2010 6:25pm
by ashyah

Mary Stearns Montgomery

Key Questions to Ask Your Divorce Lawyer

I've posted some helpful tips for people who may be headed for divorce. No matter what state you're in, asking these questions will help you find someone competent and capable. Key Questions to Ask Your Divorce Lawyer I hope this helps!

Views: 110 Replies: 0

Last Post: Nov 8, 2010 11:12am
by Mary Stearns Mon...

Lisa H.

Abbey

You mentioned you work with children...I was wondering about a few things with my son. My ex is such a jerk, he tells our son EVERYTHING. He is 9 and has had a nervous stomach since he was 4 and started school. I have had him to dr. over and over again. They keep cl...

Views: 160 Replies: 17

Last Post: Nov 8, 2010 5:48am
by Lisa H.

Not too sure...

Signing the Deed

We are scheduled to see the General Magistrate in 2 weeks. We have come to an agreement that he will provide support for a total of 2 years (we do not have children together) and he will get the house. He purchased to home before we married and added my name to the...

Views: 95 Replies: 1

Last Post: Nov 7, 2010 5:08pm
by Jeannie

kat

What is happening to the so called "men" in this country?

I just finished reading (summers) new post and listening to everyone in all the others I just have to ask that question. What gives any man the idea that he has any right to physically or verbally abuse his wife or children? To control all her actions. To refuse to...

Views: 133 Replies: 7

Last Post: Nov 7, 2010 3:21pm
by kat

Sad

What should I do please help!!

Hello, I really dont know what to do. My husbands wants divorce but I dont. It started when he came back home for R&R he was telling me if we get divorce you can keep everything and I just (him) keep the car. I was like where that came from.. but after his R&R he lef...

Views: 145 Replies: 11

Last Post: Nov 7, 2010 1:41pm
by JLVR

Confused Mother

I don't know what to do

So a little background, I have been trying to get divorced since about June 2010, been separated since June of 09. My husband of course wants to drag things out so things will be on his terms. All I was trying to do was just get things done and make agreements but we...

Views: 154 Replies: 6

Last Post: Nov 7, 2010 4:56am
by LisaH

Sam

Trying to decide....

I've been unhappy in Marriage for a long time. I've been married for 3.5 years and for the last 2 we have been in constant, regular counseling (as individuals and couple) I really feel like I can never be happy with my husband. I am so lonely, it is awful. I just ca...

Views: 125 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 7, 2010 4:24am
by JLVR

Sam

The Love Dare?

I watched fireproof recently. Has anyone ever tried "the love dare" book? and actually completed it? Did it help? Do you think it is worth a try? Thanks!

Views: 128 Replies: 2

Last Post: Nov 6, 2010 8:04pm
by Sam

Jean

CAN a leopard change its spots?

Have any of you experienced your husband or exhusband making changes only to revert back to old behavior after you let your guard down?

Views: 145 Replies: 4

Last Post: Nov 6, 2010 1:03pm
by JLVR

kennedyweisus

how do I go on?

Help me is what I pray each day! I have just left my husband of 26 years after being verbally abused for years. I am a cancer survivor and now this! I know that hte Lord will be there for me but I just have so many emotions. How do I tell myself that I and worth some...

Views: 183 Replies: 7

Last Post: Nov 6, 2010 9:58am
by MovingForward

Lala

Deer In Headlights

The Facts: Stay at home mom for 4 years. Two kids under 5. No income. Husband had affairs. Claims there isn't anyone in the picture now. Just found out about all of this two weeks ago. Didn't know because he travels for work. How in the heck to people afford...

Views: 112 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 6, 2010 9:41am
by JLVR

Ucanfindjoy

Lying about marital status (sociopath)

I was married in April 2010 and the person I married left without warning or notice in June 2010. He has not given me any financial assistance. Right before he left he cashed his last pay check, took the remaining money out of the bank, quit his job and moved to Loui...

Views: 118 Replies: 2

Last Post: Nov 6, 2010 9:34am
by JLVR

Waiting to exhale

How long?

I filed around August 15 (in NJ). Counter party did not answer in time and requested an extention to respond. How long can they go on like that? I'm still waiting for the counter claim and it's now November. Now I need to file a motion for pendente lite since DH fee...

Views: 101 Replies: 1

Last Post: Nov 6, 2010 9:05am
by ld

bknheart

abuse and divorce

I was abused by my husband and he denies it, going to be served papers soon, I am sure. How do I go on with no job and him taking everything from me. I hate him for what he did but I love him, he changed tho, and I need to move on for me. Anyone with any advice.

Views: 106 Replies: 2

Last Post: Nov 6, 2010 8:54am
by JLVR

Lissa

Not Married Long- but he refuses to pay for house (What to do)

We were married 363 days before he got really mad, threw me out and said it was over. (Still don't know why) I am in PA, which I know is a no fault state. Since he threw me out, I came home to my parents. In the mean time, he stole all my identity items/document...

Views: 103 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 5, 2010 3:01pm
by Becky

Joanne

nassau county, new york lawyers

HELP!! Does anyone know of a good divorce attorney, in the nassau county area.

Views: 73 Replies: 0

Last Post: Nov 5, 2010 12:12pm
by Joanne

susie

relationship abuse

wow..just bought a home with my boyfriend..and the bickering has not stopped over little things...excalating into awful arguments..feel like i am on a merry go round from h...

Views: 108 Replies: 2

Last Post: Nov 5, 2010 11:30am
by Waiting to exhal...

Deirdre

Unbelievable.

After being a "free woman" for 9 months, I am going on a date next weekend. I told my kids that I would not be around that Saturday, and that was OK because we hadn't made any plans together. My daughter asked what I was going to be doing, and I told her I had a da...

Views: 191 Replies: 7

Last Post: Nov 5, 2010 10:46am
by Deirdre

summer912

stay at home moms or minimal work THIS IS RATHER LONG SORRY i will understand if no one reads it lol

I am curious of how many of us on here were/are stay at home moms. I was a stay at home mom for 18 years, except for working the tax season 5 months a year for 13 years (if you need tax advise let me know ). I always worked here and there since my first daughter...

Views: 187 Replies: 16

Last Post: Nov 5, 2010 4:19am
by Lisa H.

Anonymous

Parents Divorce

After I discovered my mom cheating on my dad, they decided to get a divorce and it was left up to myself, my brother, and sister as to who would be legally responsible for us. I decided to stay with my dad in order to get away from the drama my mom was causing, and I...

Views: 132 Replies: 3

Last Post: Nov 3, 2010 8:12am
by Wendy

thinking of divorce need advice =/

I am seeking advice on what to do about my marriage. My husband is a constant liar about small things and just last night I found out he's been watching a lot of porn (which I have a HUGE problem with). I feel betrayed and worthless. He adamately denies he watched an...

Views: 128 Replies: 2

Last Post: Nov 2, 2010 8:29pm
by Jean