Why do people look at me like I am crazy when I get so upset that my husband is on chat rooms with people and watching porn a lot? It makes me feel cheated on and violated. But others I talk to about it say I’m being over dramatic that it means nothing. All guys do it. Is this true? I don’t think it is.
I agree with the previous reply. My husband wanted the two of us to make sex tapes and I refused because I am not into porn. I don't watch it, and I definitely don't want to star in one.
I’m getting divorced after discovering he has been a porn addict, sex addict for my entire marriage. I could never figure out why he really didn’t have a sex drive. Well, all my questions were answered when I discovered all his nude pics, numerous sex room chats, master_____ing online in all these rooms. Numerous online sex hookup profiles and the Craig’s list ads and corresponding with outher couples for threesomes. Now, he wants to take me to mediation cuz he doesn’t want to give me a cent. And, when I took pics of everything I discovered and confronted him he would pathologically lie to my face until I said “ what about this pic, on and on and on. My question...if he doesn’t give me any money, can I write a letter to all his family members, my family members, and all our mutual friends about his deviant behavior, pathological lying, etc?I live in a no fault state so he thinks he is free and clear. He is a sociopath.
I experienced similar situation in a no fault state. Talk to an attorney. Expenses for pornography and affairs are not considered marital expense or marital debt. In my case, he is now responsible for most of our debt as he incurred most of this debt via adult entertainment sites and the affair. We (I) did a property settlement agreement. He agreed to my terms to avoid legal and other expenses and especially to avoid his expenses/behaviors being discussed in front of others/court room. Knowledge and proof is very powerful.
More important than no-fault is if your state is community vs equitable distribution.
Most men regardless of their contribution ratio believe that money is theirs. You don’t have to opt for mediation, in some states you can go straight to the pre-trial settlement conference. The estranged one is self-employed liar so mediation was not an option. Mediation is for those who are somewhat reasonable and considering the family.
Consult an attorney. Don’t give the ex a reason to malign your character. He will go after you because of his issues. The desperate like company. Good luck
My husband was like that. We are now getting a divorce. He promised me to stop in 2014. Well he met someone in a chat room , they have never met. He asked for a divorce to marry her. Once he finds someone else on a chat room, you become insignificant. You start to feel like crap because you notice you never get attention and he is grumpy you. I tried to divorce in 2014, he said he would change. He didn t.
It’s not okay. It leads to more no matter what. My husband was in chat rooms where they joked and sent sexual memes to each other. He told me it was harmless flirting. Fast forward to he just got back from a weekend away and met up with one of the women from the chat group that was supposed to be just there to hang out as friends but they had sex. Now my 20 year marriage is over.