When on trial in a divorce case, i hesitated with the word irretrievable. Our judge couldnt find our marriage irretrievable. So she would give me 2 to 3 weeks to contest if i still want to proceedmoving forward. It is on record.She gave a ruling in four days,it states that were still married. How could this be, my husband dont want to be married. I hestated to say irretrievable. But i want my divorce. Please could someone please explain this to me.