I've been divorced now for close to 9 years and I still think about my ex with hatred all the time. I'm remarried to a wonderful man and we have a healthy strong relationship but I'm having such a hard time letting go of my anger at my ex. He mistreated me so much during our short marriage, cheated on me, and mentally abused me. I hate that I stayed so long and never stood up to him. When we got divorced, I only wanted one thing- my wedding ring which he had ripped off my finger when I found out he was cheating on me. He had purchased two four wheelers, two snowmobiles and a boat while we were together; I had run up tons of credit card debt on things that we both benefited from but I didn't want compensation for any of it. I simply wanted my wedding ring back and to move on. I got it back at our divorce proceedings, and found out a year later that he had paid someone to remove the diamond and replace it with a cubic zirconia. I was devastated but not surprised. I now wish I had gone after him for everything but I can't change the past. I hate him to the point where if I saw him on fire, I wouldn't spit on him to put him out. Does anyone have any advice on how to let go of this anger? I know the saying that hating someone is like letting them live rent-free in your head but I just can't seem to move past it