I have been married to my partner for 8 years next month. Last summer we had a fight where she used the d word and ever since I've had this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach even though things seem to get better. We're each going to separate counseling and just started marriage counseling where she said that she can't go on if things don't change. but I'm concerned that it's gone too far now and we just have fundamental differences that are not going to allow things to work out. Just moved to a new city and bought a new house and we have a kiddo and I just can't see this all going well and I'm freaking out