I think the same thing as well. Then I think the following, before I met him I was pretty much on my own and managing just fine with no friends for help (ie just moved into the state I met him). I remember I went to college and afterwards moved to a new state no family or friends at the locations. I survived and managed.

Then I remember he isn't here for me anyways not on the bigger things. I wounde up in the emergency room one day because of dizziness(menieres) and I tried calling him to come take me home because they gave me drugs and I couldn't drive. It took me 4 calls in the span of 4 hours to get him to pick up the phone so he could come and pick me up (he ahs a thing answering the phone from an unknown number). He went on a vacation with his brother at the height of my dizziness for two weeks, I had no friends and I asked him can you ask his friend bob if he mind me calling him if I winde up in the emergency room while he was away and needed someone to give me a ride home or take care of the dogs.

He refused to ask him. He left me with no one no one cause he shewed the small group of friends I did have. A month later he offered his friend bob wife to call him if she needed help while bob was away on a business trip.

So while he may do small things like get ice for me or fill up my water when we are watching tv. Carry in the groceries. When it truly comes to counting on him I can't. And it is proven through not just my interaction but how he treated his grandmother and other people around him. I never once see him go out of his way for someone. And always b| tches about people asking for his help. Unless he wants to spend time with them cause he is lonely nothing is truly free with this man he always has to get something. There is always an angle.

I tell you this hoping it mind remind you that perhaps he doesn't do as much as you think or maybe he really isn't there for you anyway significant.

When I do become single if I need car help I will goto a mechanic, if I need house help I will learn myself or call someone to help.

The one fortunate thing from my family that I got was to be independent and to know things. My dad taught me oil change, tune ups and fuel filters. How to change a tirea and how to jump start.

I was raised to be extremely independent and knowing I can do anything a man can do by my father. I just hit a bump in the road with an very manipulative abuse man.