My soon to be ex did the same thing!!! He talked to a woman on the phone for 2 years complaining about me, avoiding and ignoring me. it was an emotional affair. How could anything be fixed when they don't even make you aware there's an issue!!!

I've spent so much time trying to fix problems, And getting blamed for everything. He was content to avoid and deny anything was wrong. There are so many feelings of give me a chance to fix this, then f!$k this I'm done. It isn't proper closure, and we may never get it.

From what you've said your wife has already moved on. Don't hold on to something that doesn't want you. I'm struggling with this too, it hurts so **** much! I completely understand.