Hello
This is my 1st time on this forum
I just found out through my friend that is going through a divorce
Sorry 😐 ☺️ this a long story
I am 59 years old and I was cleaning my husband room and organizing his desk and I saw a note Underneath his desk written in an Flowery note in Spanish “TE QUiERO” means
“ I Want you “ and a motel receipt and an address since he was not home at this time it was in the morning around 10:00am I decided to take my car and go to this address and my
Jaw dropped when I saw his car in this place that this tenant of our works because this address is in the LEASE application as a cleaning 🧹 lady She works for many many years in a high class neighborhood with an amazing beautiful view of the entire city location which I know her because she is a tenant of ours and I decided to trespass this house and rang the bell to find out who would open the door .... but some else opened the door than I decided to call him to find out where he is (since I saw his car parked) he did answered his phone and I asked him Where are you? And I guess he already got suspicion that I was there and he told me
Where are you ?And I responded in an raised voice
Where are you ?? And than he suddenly came walking from the corner toward me and told What are you doing here? and than I told him What are you doing here???? I was furious I took my car and drove away and he followed me with his car and than he lost me .... an hour later I decided to go back home and he was there and when I asked him what he was doing there he told me he was helping a friend of his down the street which I never knew he had a friend in that area
YEAH right
Who is he fooling ??
I had some kind of gut feeling way before this happened that something was going on with this particular tenant the way they would talk to each other ....Some of the tenants from the building told me that they would see her going out at the same time that my husband would leave home
I confronted him and he told me nothing happened between them
I do not believe him And now I do not trust him
Before I trusted him 100% I will never thought that he would do this to me
How can he be sooooo LOW
My Love to him changed completely now
I hate him I just feel like filing the divorce paper without him knowing
There is no one I can take him back even we go to a marriage counseling
He knew being unfaithful would destroy our marriage
And there was another time he went with her to an concert (at an stadium) where there would be famous singers And he lied to her that I did not come because I was taking care of my Elderly Aunt the day of the concert (another lie from him I did not take care of my Aunt)
What a LIAR 🤥
I do not know if I can stay or be happy in this marriage anymore knowing what he did to me
I am heart broken
I just feel like taking my belongings without telling him and file for divorce without telling him
(No Explanation needed)
Is Too Many Lies
I cannot TRUS him anymore

What should I do ??
Or What would you do??
Thanks in advance

Hire a private detective! You don’t have any concrete evidence yet. You may be completely wrong…Check his bank accounts, phone bills, internet history…

Hi Lilly
Thank you for responding

The note I found the hotel receipt I found and knowing she works at that house because the rent application shows where a person work or do for a living
At times I would notice that my husband will close his office door (leaving a little gap ) will text her so I do not see what he is doing and when I will open the door he will hide right away
And the neighbors that live in the same complex mentioned to me that she would dress up etc....which was unusual to them .
And also the day they went to the concert she mentioned that he treated her like an gentleman Why he would lie to her that I was taking care of my Aunt that day ??
I know there is something going on between them it is a gut feeling even though he said nothing happen
I do not believe him

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thanks Anthony

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I see you’ve tagged onto many posts here, trying to flog your services to vulnerable women Anthony…

I'm sorry that you are going through this.

I would suggest talking with someone to help you organize your thoughts and plans. A counselor, maybe or a divorce attorney if that is your plan.

I think you need to calm down and make a plan. Don't take any hasty actions that may hurt you in the long run. For example, before I filed for divorce my attorney advised me not to leave the marital home (I was planning to move to my sister's house until the divorce was finalized.)

Find out what you need to do to protect yourself, your rights and secure your assets. Don't show your hand until you have your stuff in order. If he is lying and hiding things, you don't want to give him a chance to mess with your finances for example. Meet with an attorney and go from there.

Good luck!
Kelly