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Unknown Future

Hello Everyone
Getting angry, mad or a temper for silly things is it normal ?

This happens most of the time during my marriage it is very hard to communicate with him without an argument
What causes a man to have a temper ?

I suggested him to join an anger Mananagement he refused or counseling

I have to think twice before I talk to him so he will not get angry

I am tired of him treating me this way and he is also this way to other people sometimes
I do feel embarrassed when he react this way to other people we know and I will tell him to calm down or be nice but he will not listen to me

Unknown future
I do want to file for divorce but sometimes I don’t because I have been married for 28 yrs I even do not know what I want

Is it because I got used too 🤷🏻‍♀️ What to do anymore
Sometimes I feel happy with him sometimes I do not

Re: Unknown Future

I'm sorry I was in the same situation. We were married for 22 years. I finally left. Has anyone else pointed out his anger? Not sure your age but he could be headed into mental decline like dementia.

https://www.verywellhealth.com/anger-and-aggression-in-dementia-4134488

In my case, he was just angry with me. It is no way to live with someone that spews anger toward you at every moment. He had a lot of contempt for me so I had no choice but to leave. What is your response to him when he is angry? There are so many things I could have done differently. Have your tried leaving for a short term like go visit a relative for a couple of weeks?

Re: Unknown Future

Hi Mimi C

Sorry for you too
I am married for 33 yrs
I am 59yrs old and he is 64yrs old
Oh yes many people did notice that he has an temper They do not want to deal with him
And when he gets angry I tell him to calm down and he gets even angrier and than I leave the room until he calms down
If I open an conversation about the argument that we had he will tell me that I am not supporting him or I am never on his side of what he thinks about some irrational thing which is not even important to argue about it is not even worth it
I do not know if I can continue living this way ...
🤗