Hi, It doesn’t sound as if your partnership is equal. You sound stressed, tired and sad and that’s not a fun way to live life. Couples therapy sounds like a good idea. At least you can then have peace of mind that if your relationship doesn’t improve-you’ve at least tried to work on it. How patient are you also though? Are you annoying?! Untidy?! Why does she fly off the handle? Is any of it ‘justified,’ or is she just being mean to you? You certainly should not have to justify or feel guilty about buying a cup of coffee! Good Heavens…