I’m going through the same. My husband of 17 years together 20 wants a divorce because he’s unhappy and not in love with me anymore. Found text messages between him and a co-worker Thanksgiving morning, but he stated he planned on wanting a divorce after the new year. It’s so hard! I’m trying to be strong and move on for me and my teenage kids, and trying to do things to make me a better and stronger person, but he’s stating if only I had done these things before. Like it’s all my fault this marriage failed and I’m the sole reason he was so unhappy. Then he’ll turn around and say that we just need to move on. He wants to erase me from his life and replace me with his new woman, but also keep me on a string. I hate this so much!! Everyone says it’s like a death and will get easier, I’m just waiting for this easy part that everyone talks about. I loved him so much his faults and his ups and downs, but he couldn’t love me the same.