Hi Wendy
My therapist recommended a book for me on divorce. And I am seeing a therapist
It is hard cause I been married 14 years but no children. I would separate first because during that time you can gain your freedom and start the grieving process. Keeping busy and being in nature has helped me. I would tell him to separate then if he doesn’t change his mind file the papers. I know this is hard and it will be down the road.