Hello Everyone
I am still Sad and Angry at my Ex after I filed for divorce because he liked to take control and most of the time he wanted to be right in any situation that arrived and he always wanted me to be on his side supporting on his wrong ways of thinking and acting, just because I was his wife for 30 yrs
Why I am still feeling sad even though I wanted a divorce ?
I could not handle him anymore ...
I know nobody is perfect including myself but he was very very stubborn and I know he will not change his ways ....I am trying not to think about him but it is so hard and I know some of the Women’s on this forum suggested to be friends with the Exes but I do not believe being friends with an Ex ,either you are in the marriage or your are out
If I become friends with my Ex , I will be to weak and naive and I will go back at his arms believing that he will change his ways.
But one thing for sure I DO feel Sorry for him because he is all by himself ...all I am hoping and praying that some day he will find someone to take care of him 🤞🙏
It will be hard though since his health is not so great but he is still can handle himself and also he is 64 yrs old .
How can I not think about him anymore ?
Why I still feel this way??
I do work full time and I try to be busy doing things I enjoy , and I do not feel lonely but sometimes I missed him even though I do not want him back.
Thank you in advance
Take care
I miss mine too even with all that I know and the different cheating over the years. I have 2 kids and a job that keep me busy most days but when I'm by myself it's when I miss and hate him the most. The people around me just say I miss the company of someone being here, not so much my husband. Everyone says we lived we separated lives anyway and we were more like roommates even though I didn't see it like that. I unfortunately have to be some kind of friends for my kids sake but I don't like ex's being friends either. Feeling sorry for your ex is so normal since you spent so long together it's natural but you are not responsible for him. Just like anyone else you feel sorry for they are responsible for themselves and you need to keep going and don't let them take you down with them.
The advice I keep getting is to just keep moving forward and everyday the memory will fade farther and farther away until he is just an after thought. There is no secret formula and that we just have to keep going and be happy with ourselves and with what we have. And try and surround yourself with goodness and happiness.
If I something else that works I will let you know. Stay strong you did and are doing what is right for you. I hope this helps.