He emailed me at work, his filled out divorce petition
I was at work today. I had to leave and go home. We have been living separate since November, and married 4 years..he has Narcissistic Personality Disorder and ADHD so it's like being married to two separate people. He can be so charming and sweet..and then brutal..he laughs at me when I cry sometimes..and looks happy. And lies about me to his family and Fri and he won't let me correct these lies..I have left a few times. The last time I left he yelled at me that nobody wants me there and to get out and leave, nobody would miss me. Then a month later I moved back and a couple days later he yelled at me again "You know I have abandonment issues how could you leave!" His father abandoned him at a young age and his mom was neglectful, not emotionally available..I know this is why he is this way. But the pain takes my breath away.
Re: He emailed me at work, his filled out divorce petition
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Re: He emailed me at work, his filled out divorce petition
I am sorry that you are going through this. My ex- was also emotionally abusive, said horrible thing to me. He also had some childhood trauma that was never addressed.
I would recommend seeking counseling for yourself; it really helped me. See if he will go with you, my therapist helped me see that all the awful things he said to me really had nothing to do with me. His rages and venting at me was only ever about himself; his feelings, his frustration, his mental health problems...
I had to learn to ignore him, shut him out, grab my keys and leave the house when he started ranting at me.
After I filed for divorce is when he finally went for treatment, counseling and medication. He's much better and very remorseful for how he treated me. We are able to be friends now.
Good luck- you can do it, stay strong, look him in the face and tell him that he is not allowed to speak to you that way. Don't accept anything awful he says to you.