During this Holiday season i have been reading this site and found that I am not alone. There are many people going through such troubling situations. I know that God will help us all. This Holiday season is joyous for me and my daughter because we don't have to listen to the fussing, cursing, threathening, and most of all be around drinking! I want so badly to look at my situation and know that i have a new start. I done want to look back and I don't want to hurt anymore. I still think about my husband on a daily basic but now it's more of I feel sorry for him that he has lost his family and now he is alone. God help us all!

I just separated from my husband a week ago tomorrow and I gotta tell you this has been the best week ever. Sometimes I feel bad because he too lost his family and he really didn't have much family to speak of other than us. His family has issues I couldn't even fathom before I met him 10 years ago and they ostracized us because of him. Shocker! His mom is very sick and may not live much longer but I cannot allow that or any other hardship in his life to deter me from going forward with a divorce. I had to file a PFA on him for the 3rd time and this time there is no turning back. I just have to keep reminding myself of the abuse when all I want to do is forget. I am not his mother and I do not have to take care of him anymore and neither do you.

Thanks! You are so right. We must be strong and make sure that we make good decisions. Life is too short

@Recently Separated- That kind of strong, positive attitude is rare. Keep it up, and 2011 will be an awesome year for you.

-Mary
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