Hi again Dianne..I'm so sorry that my post made u upset and feeling so trapped. U didn't say where u both were married..US or UK? If in the US, then you might be able to or even have to come back here to file for divorce. That could be of great help to you in this situation. I do hope you get legal advice asap so you will know exactly the thing to do. Then you can begin to deal with this and may find it's not going to be nearly as bad as you think..I know the trapped feeling.. I sympathize with you..Again, Good luck, and God Bless.. Keep us posted..:-)