Hmmm. I know how irritating it can be when you know they are lying out of their rear end, specially when they appear so rational and decent. My ex and I did the whole mediation thing, and while I knew he was lying I shut up. In time they unravel themselves and people do see through them, it just takes a while. Rather than be seen to be making life difficult or being the bitter ex I just kept quiet knowing full well they would learn in the end.

His subsequent police records (all involving o/w)have shown without a doubt the man he is.

People are not stupid (well hopefully the ones who are mediating on your behalf arent) I think they have seen and heard it all before, but when police reports start showing up everything they have previously stated comes into question.

I have it written in an agreement through my solicitor that my son can not see or be anywhere near other woman, this is without producing police reports (they are there I just didnt need to produce them) if he wants he can take me to court to over rule this, he hasnt and is unlikely to because the police records and his convictions strengthen every argument I have.

I know Lisa has something similar where o/w is not allowed near her children, so there must be a way round it.
Hopefully the other ladies will have some more concrete advice for you regarding laws over there.
My argument is that they have a volatile relationship (abusive and violent) and that my child must not be subjected to seeing any of this. My solicitor also put in that whie they are together they 'drink' and the whole idea of contact is for him to spend 'quality time' with his son.

There are ways to protect our children when there is a need. In your case I would hope you have the law on your side. Good luck.

I do have that my children are not to be with my ex's GF(s). If he is gone for longer than 4 hours he HAS to contact me and give me the children. I also have other other orders in place that the judge said are rare. But I FOUGHT my a$$ off to make sure they were put in place. I refused to compromise with my children's safety and mental well being.
It's all in how hard you are willing to fight and how much you can withstand while your ex's attorney is throwing things around. DON"T agree to anything until you have had time to think about it. I took my Mom with me. Yes she is my Mom and wants me to be happy but she is objective. I would ask her is I was being nasty and not thinking of my kids but taking my anger out on my ex by being stubborn. She would tell me when I was just being a b*tch, and I would give a little. It helped to have someone there with me. My attorney told me I did not have to agree with a thing, we could always go to court. We had a full day of mediation, literally it took 6 hours. He fought me over everything, times dates and all but I stood my ground and he gave in.

Oh, not sure what to do,

if only you could take Lisa with you!!

Let us know how it goes.

I would go in a heartbeat
One thing I hate the most is that these men who don't really care about their children get what they want. They bully us in our marriages (not in the sense that all of us were beat, but we feel like we HAVE to stay so that they/everyone will be happy) They bully us during the seperation/divorce and they make us believe that we have no choice when it comes to our kids all because of this little thing called "father's rights" We do have a choice, we are their Mothers. We are the ones who have cared for them since birth. I just stood up for what rights I do have. My ex's attorney truly HATES me. He looks down on me like I am some stupid lowly woman who has no clue. Then I walk in there knowing what I want and I strive to get it. I research and ask questions on every subject that has been thrown at me. Before any hearing I have looked up and spent hours searching for the answers I want. My attorney is good but he is no different than any other attonery they think we are dumb they tell us the options they want us to use. Sometime I think they just don't want us to know because they they have to do more work
Prepare! Prepare! Prepare!