Kennedy, my impression from your post is that you would really like for this to work. The use of alcohol can destroy people's lives. I agree that he should have to first PROVE that he has changed, then you can consider getting back with him. He needs to be in counseling, AA, or whatever else. He needs to prove it over time. I also think you should get into counseling to help you with this process. If you do meet him I'd do it in a public place. Protect yourself until he has proven himself to you. If he is sincere about wanting to change, he will do it for himself, not for you. If he is just doing it to get you back, I would think the chances of it lasting aren't real good. If he truly is wanting to become a better person, all the more power to him. Good luck.