Re: Can I requst to stop my divorce even though I didn't file it?
There is no way to keep your husband married to you if he does not chose it. My ex tried for almost three years to keep me but in the end, with all the court orders for everything under the sun, he lost the battle and I won the right to be free.
Yes you can ask the court for couples counciling order but it takes two willing partners to make this work and if one is already set on their freedom will it really work?
Re: Can I requst to stop my divorce even though I didn't file it?
I was married 14 years. In the past 6 years I have fought and fought and fought for my marriage. His father even told me he didn't think we belonged together. It finally hit me one day...why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me? He wasn't willing to see a counselor, and even if we had, if his heart wasn't in it it wouldn'tchange a thing. One day when he-for probably about the millionth time- mentioned divorce, I finally told him to just pack a bag and go. Wish I hadn't wasted all of those years fighting for something that wasn't going to be. It hurts. It's horrible. But you will be OK. Prayers and hugs.
Re: Can I requst to stop my divorce even though I didn't file it?
I agree, if he doesn't want to be with you, I would say, GOODBYE!
The thoughts I am having recently of my ex h are not pleasant.. All the lies, broken promises.. Anyways, if it were me, I would let him go, grieve the loss & know that it can only get worse (trust me I know) if you stick with someone that does not want you around! There ARE good people out there.
Re: Can I requst to stop my divorce even though I didn't file it?
There are, "marriage stander," groups, online..
You might try going to one of these to get some support? There are some who do take this route.
Maybe if you check one of them out & share there what you are going through they can help you sort it out.
I went to one for awhile earlier on in my marriage, but when I realized it was pretty much a waste (& eventually they pretty much told me that it was Not ok his continual discarding me.. ) I was able to deal with letting go. There are several (or were) & it was very helpful. Some spouses (& ex's) do stand & hold tight.. what is useful I think is that it is a support place where you can at least share with others who are taking a similar stance.
I don't see anything wrong with it, but in my case after NUMEROUS discards by the ex, I decided to give him his hearts desire.. a divorce.
Not what I wanted but, I didn't matter (to him).. so now divorced! Anyways, give it a try.. it can't hurt!
They can probably help you sort out what to do...
Re: Can I requst to stop my divorce even though I didn't file it?
Sorry but California has a no fault divorce, and if you don't sign the papers or you do, he will get the divorce in 6 month or a yr. It does not matter if you want it or not. If he filled and that is what he wants, that is what he is going to get. I know, I live in California. Sorry. If papers were filed and he already signed them all you can do is go with it. Or you will get royally screw.