well i have been married for 25 years and this is my third marriage and i am 45 yrs old, i have recently had suspected my husband is cheating on me, after 25 yrs he has stoped giving me money, he buys everything needed for hm.he has been with holding sex, ans is all of a sudden worried about his appearance and wants a nose job, i have found secert bank accounts, and he has the neighbors watch and follow me every day i am a caged animal here i have no way of catching him nor any money to hire a investigator he made sure of that on, i am so tired of these ganes he is playing with me and i have told him my intentions of a divore he states that i will never catch him and that i am crazy and stupid and he just treats me like crap i have no help around me my friends i gave up to raise and focus on my family wiuth wk and school, their is no time for us any more well if anyboby has any suggestions i would like to hear them, thank you
Don't let him know what you are thinking or doing; he will just use it against you. Contact a women's shelter, or find a counselor.....call a mental health clinic and find out who accepts on a sliding scale or for free. Hugs
In other words, be pro-active; reach out and find help wherever you can.
I was married for 20 plus years. You don't need money to know your husband is running around with another woman. The Flea(EX) had so many affairs and I could tell every time he was running around with a woman. This last time he was walking around the house like a teen ager on the cell phone talking, all sweet and happy. As soon as he hang up he would have a face of disgust like he just didn't want to be here. You can tell right away. The Flea would tell me the same thing you will never know, I always knew. This last time I was just so feed up I threw him out. So see you don't need neighbors or friends to tell you what is going on, you know down deep inside of you. I too am a stay at home mom. Divorce and still at home. The flea still pays my bills, for how long who knows, but for now he still does. Take care and keep us posted.
There are ways to see his emails and track his online activity that are undetectable. Works well if he is somewhat computer challenged. This is how I found out my ex was cheating.
To my knowledge Jerk never cheated on me, but I suspected it at times. At the end of the day it doesn't really matter...I obviously didn't trust him and no good relationship can exist without trust.
I'm soon to be divorced but been separated for 4yrs. When we were living under the same roof my ex tried to put a key logger program on the computer to see what I was doing, "guess he felt guilty about what he was doing" needless to say he left this program open one time and busted his self. This is just one of the many times I caught him cheating.