Hey, Kate, many of us understand your dilemma. My story is quite different than the cheating husband, but I more than understand being poor. Lisa nailed it, though. Cut back, think about where every penny is spent, work hard. I'm filing bankruptcy-royally stinks. Never in my wildest imagination did I think I'd be here. But I am here and the kids and I will be OK. Self-respect is essential and I can go to sleep every night content with myself. Happiness is important, money is money as long as your basic needs are met. Let us know how you're doing.