thank you for all the feed back it is nice to talk to someone about this, i struggle everyday with this issue. the woman he is seeing has her family and friends following me every where i go the people who live to the left of me and right are her family and friends, i have found condom wrapers out in the back of our home.i have told the police about this and all that is expected but they have to actually do some thing to me in order for something to be done, sad right. after 25 yrs with this man i have just finished his immigration papers and i called the lawyer and they said i could not divorce him till after 2013. this man of 25 yrs continues to disrespect me on a daily basses, he throws in my face i will never catch him, i am so ready for a new life and to be happy and to just feel good for one day. i am searching for a job desperately, i just dont know what to do at this point,i do appreciate your words and again thank you