I have wondered too about what kind of woman knowingly does this to another woman, to a family with kids and grandkids. She can't have any heart at all to knowingly break up a family. And I do not see how a man could want a woman like that. Her lack of compassion will eventually extend to him. In my case, I think there are several things in play. I believe with all my heart that my husband is caught in a mid life crisis. He shows so many of the signs and symptoms, it would almost be funny if the situation wasn't so tragic. As for his new friend, she has been divorced for 18 years. If you ask me, I certainly think it's possible that she's run through all the men in her area and had to extend her reach before she got any older. 18 years is a long time to be alone, expecially considering that she started that 18 years at only age 32. That makes me wonder why she hasn't found anyone in all that time. Is it possible that it's her? In that case, my husband being 1400 miles away can only help her out. He is not close enough to interact in person with her very often. She can certainly manage to be her best for the few days a month she sees him. Of course, there is all the passion of longing for and missing each other that helps their relationship to feel even more special. I think she looks at my husband as her last chance to find someone. He is also a great catch for her as his current income is at least 3 times hers. Although to go to her he will hve to change jobs and will be unable to make anything near what he makes now, he will still be making a lot more than her. Of course, my little scenario is just speculation but I know she knows about his family and it doesn't change the fact that she cannot be a very decent person to do what she's doing.
Just wait Alone your husband is going to be one very sorry guy. The red flags are flying all over the place with this women. There is a reason she's still single after 18yrs. This is going to be poetic justice. I bet it doesn't last six months. If your husband makes that much you need to apply for spousal support. Please take everything you can what you leave will just make it easier for him to leave you. What a stupid, stupid man he is!!!!!!!!!! I'd let him go to her and watch how soon he'll be begging you to come back home. Like you said if it wasn't so tragic it would be comical. You sound like you are getting stronger all the time and we are so proud of you. Just know we are here for you always.
Kathleen you are to sweet! I really, really hope things are going well with your husband! You are such a great friend and have touched so many people here. You deserve for all your hopes to come true! Yes, I am getting stronger everyday. And the friends I have here have contributed so much to my growth. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
You are so right. My husband of 34 years got an email from an old girlfriend he has before I even met him. she had cheated on him when they were dating. She has now been married and divorced twice and slept with the last husband while he was married. He cheated on her with his ex wife and she was devistated. So what does she do, look up my husband and sleeps with him knowing how long we had been married. So he then came back once in awhile and slept with me and I felt I just had to share that information with her. She kicked him out and was just chrushed, but as soon as she realized that the fun times and all the gifts and dinners had now stopped she begged him to come back. They are still together. We have only been divorced 6 months.
I think they both got the person they deserve.
Now with that said, I still love the jerk and miss him. How messed up is that???