Sweetie: I am 64 and got a divorce when I was in my late 50's.......The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life.

Trust me, unless the abuser gets into therapy and spends perhaps YEARS getting help for their issues, they will never change.

Take advantage of the resources available to you; counseling, etc.

Love, Alicia

Alicia, that is a great book and I was going over it yesterday. Another book is Lundy Bancroft called Why Does He Do That? It is very upfront and powerful about why men abuse. I am 52 and have been divorced for 5 years and my ex still tries to make my life miserable. My sons have not spoken to me in 4 years and he encourages it. I can honestly say without tears, it is their problem not mine. I have offered apologies to my sons but get cussed out as a response.
I can move on with my life with knowing I will never be called a name again.