I am also the one who asked for the divorce and my husband doesn’t want it. He’s run the full range of emotions, sad, angry, cooperative, apologetic, remorseful, hateful. It’s a roller coaster for him and I’m trying my best to not go along for the ride. I had many months to prepare before he even knew what I was thinking so I get he needs time to catch up. He’s also a very angry person who is in denial about all he has put me through. They dont have to agree, they don’t have to like it. Stay strong and stand by your decision.
He has a range of emotions also. I was trying to protect him by ignoring my feelings but I can't do it anymore. We have a 4-year-old he likes to emotionally manipulate me with by saying our 4-year-old won't like it and it's unfair to him. But children are resilient.
I was in this same boat until just yesterday. My husband and I had been battling each other since our marriage began almost 10 years ago. I had left a few times only to come back because he said things would change. Recently we went to marriage counseling once a month for 3 months which wasn't nearly enough and after a fight he said he was never going back. Nothing was right with us from the beginning and I had said that over and over throughout the years. Last night was the final straw for him as well. Now I feel sick to my stomach, but I know it's the right thing.
What happened to make you feel emotionally unattached?
If it was your husband, did he know what he was doing to try and fix it?
Was your husband thinking he was doing the right thing, what he did was not an issue? - whether it be - make plans with friends without checking with you, or sharing information that should be kept in the marriage and spread the word, about you/ etc.
I am there with you!
Forgive and forget? I can forgive if they admit what they did and I have proof. I will Never forget any of it. It’s still not worth my mental health to continue needing to “babysit his actions now”.