I am sorry you are going through that. Initially finding out is awful. All I can share is to tell you that I wish so very much that I had left the first time it happened. I spent over 2 decades of my life in an unhealty situation. Sincerely wish I could get those years back. Grieving for that time that I could have been spent loving ME. Instead of trying to fix him. Time helps. Your realization sounds fresh. Be good to yourself. Thanks for sharing.